"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Is it wussy to be..

tryst type

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Thoughtful? ie makin/buying really small items to highlight a previous moment with a girl that you've been dating/gf?

Personal example: fooling around pretty hard one night and all her bobby pins happened to disappear. 2 days later noticed a handful pack cheap at the store, bought and gave to her with a wink.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Stop worrying about being "wussy". If you felt it was the right thing to do then it was the right thing to do.

Just let go of any expectation that you will get anything in return and don't make such a big deal out of such a simple thing.
 

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i probably wouldn't do it, but I don't know what the right answer is. Probably depends on how long you've been going out. (the longer --> the more thoughtful you can be)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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War Against Betaism

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There's nothing wrong with buying a girl something, in fact there's nothing wrong with complimenting her too. The common misconception this board has is that we have to be jackasses in order to attract women and we can't show a hint of niceness. There's two kinds of nice; seeking one's approval in order to be accepted, and being thoughtful and considerate. What most nice guys fall into is the former, but there's absolutely nothing wrong with the latter. And there is a huge difference between the two; women will decipher which nice you're doing through body language, voice tone, etc. Just don't milk your niceness.
 

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War Against Betaism said:
There's nothing wrong with buying a girl something, in fact there's nothing wrong with complimenting her too. The common misconception this board has is that we have to be jackasses in order to attract women and we can't show a hint of niceness. There's two kinds of nice; seeking one's approval in order to be accepted, and being thoughtful and considerate. What most nice guys fall into is the former, but there's absolutely nothing wrong with the latter. And there is a huge difference between the two; women will decipher which nice you're doing through body language, voice tone, etc. Just don't milk your niceness.
Very good advice, The Alpha male is considerate and thoughtful along with all the other qualities.
 
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