"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Is it wussy to be..

tryst type

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Thoughtful? ie makin/buying really small items to highlight a previous moment with a girl that you've been dating/gf?

Personal example: fooling around pretty hard one night and all her bobby pins happened to disappear. 2 days later noticed a handful pack cheap at the store, bought and gave to her with a wink.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Stop worrying about being "wussy". If you felt it was the right thing to do then it was the right thing to do.

Just let go of any expectation that you will get anything in return and don't make such a big deal out of such a simple thing.
 

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i probably wouldn't do it, but I don't know what the right answer is. Probably depends on how long you've been going out. (the longer --> the more thoughtful you can be)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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There's nothing wrong with buying a girl something, in fact there's nothing wrong with complimenting her too. The common misconception this board has is that we have to be jackasses in order to attract women and we can't show a hint of niceness. There's two kinds of nice; seeking one's approval in order to be accepted, and being thoughtful and considerate. What most nice guys fall into is the former, but there's absolutely nothing wrong with the latter. And there is a huge difference between the two; women will decipher which nice you're doing through body language, voice tone, etc. Just don't milk your niceness.
 

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War Against Betaism said:
There's nothing wrong with buying a girl something, in fact there's nothing wrong with complimenting her too. The common misconception this board has is that we have to be jackasses in order to attract women and we can't show a hint of niceness. There's two kinds of nice; seeking one's approval in order to be accepted, and being thoughtful and considerate. What most nice guys fall into is the former, but there's absolutely nothing wrong with the latter. And there is a huge difference between the two; women will decipher which nice you're doing through body language, voice tone, etc. Just don't milk your niceness.
Very good advice, The Alpha male is considerate and thoughtful along with all the other qualities.
 
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