Ok about a week ago this girl started show interest in me and started flirting with me in class quite a bit. One bad thing is one of her best friends and I are enemies. But I'm not gonna let that stop me I'm just afraid she'll like put in the bad word. Ok my main question is is it too early after about a week of flirting to ask her to lunch and stuff? If I do then she'll know I have interest in me and I don't want her to just suddenly turn cold.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Is it too early?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
No it's not. But understand what sh*t you're getting into. Best friends that you don't like call for her choosing between them and you when she has the choice who to be with. They can be ****ing problems. I've dealt with this situation twice by seducing the best friend while I was dating the other.
Lik
Lik
Yeah, that's just gay.
Number 1a, don't fake interest in a girl to get with her friend. It's just wasted effort because...
Number 1b - In 5 years, you'll look back and realize in the however many weeks or months you spent trying to sneak in with this girl and disarm the friend, you could have been loving life, having a great time, playing sports, watching tv, chilling out, joking, relaxing, getting good grades, etc. etc...basically ENJOYING LIFE.
But who am I to say, you know - it's your life, do with it what you please. But don't disrespect yourself by being a lowlife.
Never gave mixed signals.. just seduced ;-p.
These issues are a real ***** and yeah, if it doesn't work out right you would have spent way too much time on that. By way too much time, I mean way too much wasted time. It's a real ****ing pain guy so if you havn't ever dealt with it, I don't suggest you do. You can, but realise that it's going to be a B*TCH.
If you have to go really out of your way for this to work, then drop it.
Lik
These issues are a real ***** and yeah, if it doesn't work out right you would have spent way too much time on that. By way too much time, I mean way too much wasted time. It's a real ****ing pain guy so if you havn't ever dealt with it, I don't suggest you do. You can, but realise that it's going to be a B*TCH.
If you have to go really out of your way for this to work, then drop it.
Lik
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.