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Is it the norm for a girl to have 25+ sex partners...

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25 is very very low and is actually very abnormal for her to reveal such a high number in her lies to you.. most women have lost track of actual sex partners and they classify them differently also..

Average women live like rock star men in that they can go get sex any time any place they want and the often do.. but when questioned most women will only talk about boyfriends husbands and guys they liked alot and omit information about random flings and trists
 

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Korrupt said:
Guys have to actually put in work for sex.

I think that's what it really comes down to -- the average guy has to put in work, deal with all sorts of BS, and play all these stupid games to have a chance at sex with a girl. All a girl has to do is spread her legs for whatever guy she accepts out of the HORDES of guys that approach her on a daily basis.

Guys have to do all the work and all the approaching in our society, and suffer all the rejection. Therefore, guys who can successfully "win" multitudes of women in bed are looked more favorably upon than girls who simply open up their legs and accept multitudes of guys who approach.
 

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I like to express some doubt. I know some girls who are still virgins and/or still with their first (granted, they are all Asian and/or nerdy (but still cute)), my confidence in making such a statement because many of these girls spent their high school years on studying, extra-curriculars, sports, and under the thumb of their parents, hard to hook-up being so busy with everything. My understanding that most hook-ups are facilitated by going to parties and vacations, these girls are not able to or not interested, many of such girls remain the same during college. Of course, they are a minority, but different circles mean different averages.

With a girl who had more freedom to party around and go out and so on, building 3-5 guys a year, there are those circles too and such numbers are quite believable. I just doubt that it is amongst all girls from all demographics.
 

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TheHumanist said:
I like to express some doubt. I know some girls who are still virgins and/or still with their first (granted, they are all Asian and/or nerdy (but still cute)), my confidence in making such a statement because many of these girls spent their high school years on studying, extra-curriculars, sports, and under the thumb of their parents, hard to hook-up being so busy with everything. My understanding that most hook-ups are facilitated by going to parties and vacations, these girls are not able to or not interested, many of such girls remain the same during college. Of course, they are a minority, but different circles mean different averages.

With a girl who had more freedom to party around and go out and so on, building 3-5 guys a year, there are those circles too and such numbers are quite believable. I just doubt that it is amongst all girls from all demographics.
Yep, where I live, quite big city, there are decent looking girls that never kissed a guy at 19.. I´m serious... Here most people has closed friend circles, so they hang out with the same people and to the same places all the time... so it´s not that good for having lots of partners...
It is said that england is the worst in *****s...
 

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Korrupt said:
Guys have to actually put in work for sex.
Girls always have it easier when it comes to dating. Average guys gotta deal with tests and flakes. If one has high status and money, girls will come to that guy. If the guy is popular, he'll have it easier. If a guy looks like Taylor Lautner or Justin Bieber, etc. he'll hardly have to work for sex.
 

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nismo-4 said:
Girls always have it easier when it comes to dating. Average guys gotta deal with tests and flakes. If one has high status and money, girls will come to that guy. If the guy is popular, he'll have it easier. If a guy looks like Taylor Lautner or Justin Bieber, etc. he'll hardly have to work for sex.
Actually they dont have that easy... Most girls ( statistically most are ugly or average) have just average or ugly guys hitting on them. Very few times, the guys that THEY WANT approach them. We have much more power of choice in the sense that we can approach the girls we want... Women can do that but they usually don´t, they hope that the hot guys approach them... we can actually approach the hotties.
 

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Does anyone in this thread have any idea what they are talking about?


Because I know girls who had 2 guys and girls who had 42 and they are the same age.
 

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Amazing said:
Does anyone in this thread have any idea what they are talking about?


Because I know girls who had 2 guys and girls who had 42 and they are the same age.
I'm wondering where in the ATL you are! Glad to know that there are more Atlantans on here. I'm out there in Stone Mountain (East Dekalb County) and I'm not that far from the actual mountain.

JdelaSilviera said:
Actually they dont have that easy... Most girls ( statistically most are ugly or average) have just average or ugly guys hitting on them. Very few times, the guys that THEY WANT approach them. We have much more power of choice in the sense that we can approach the girls we want... Women can do that but they usually don´t, they hope that the hot guys approach them... we can actually approach the hotties.
10% of the guys do 90% of the f**king and this is why.

We have choice in who to approach, but women, more often than not, have the final say in who they choose. You can approach a hot woman but if she doesn't find you attractive from the get-go, you've got an uphill battle. Women have the luxury of sitting back and rejecting guys. Guys gotta be confident, badass, dealers, rich, CEO's, etc. etc. to have a shot at the best of women. Pu$$y has a high market value, and women know that. So they choose from a pool of average guys until a hot guy comes along.
 

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"I don't think 25 sexual partners for a moderately attractive 21-24 year old woman is a high estimate. In fact, I think it's very conservative. Assuming she started having sex when she was 15, that's only 3-5 guys a year. Think about all the boyfriends, FWBs, summer/winter break flings, spring break hookups, 1 night stands, etc, it really adds up."

this isnt personally directed at you, or meant to offend you, but the above paragraph is a perfect example of slutty behavior.

those who know from experience will tell you, there is a definite difference between the party girl described above and the quality girl you want to keep.

today, 25 partners is the norm. because the norm is to be slutty. its the sex in the city mindset. but that doesnt mean that WE have to accept it.

dont get me wrong. ive had a lot of fun, wild times with the party girls. but in the end its meaningless. im a firm believer that man is responsible for his own happiness - but when it comes to having a partner in your life, youll be much more fulfilled to have the girl who has self respect for herself. as well as a craving for life, matching your own. not a craving for martinis and girls-night-out every weekend.

the 25+ girls are only good for one thing.

id choose a quality girl who can let loose in private over the sex in the city bimbos any day. dont settle for less.

-SLB
 

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That number is low-I mean she is understating it-trying not to look like a s1ut. BUT 25 in a young lady is too many. The first time isn't given away freely,someone had to DATE her a long time to get that one. He will probably stick around for a year or so[most teenaged boys] After she breaks up with him, it may be awhile before the next one[all heartbroken etc]

It usually takes a woman until their 30's to fully get in touch with their sexuality- not sure I'd date a 30 something with 25 she'll admit to
 

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Damn, I am 31, and barely hit half that figure, but like someone said, it was partly due to my under the thumb upbringing and time being focused on getting my career sorted.

To me 25+ seems like a high number at that age, but saying that one of my close friends had slept with 23 guys before even graduating.

So which one is worse out of these

1: Girl one, slept with 25 different guys over a period of 5 years, at times dating 2 or 3 guys at the same time, but always in a 1:1 situation. (all be it, she is messed in the head, having come from a super messed up family)

2: Girl two has slept with 6 guys in 5 years, never let her guys overlap. Super curious, and will do pretty much everything to explore her sexuality, although the best stuff comes after a few months of dating. Prepared to try stuff that her peers consider nasty and had a threesome with two guys.

Whixch girl would hold the higher moral ground?
 

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Look in the bright side your getting ***** for sure.
The dark side? She seems incredible easy. I wouldn't want someone that's "easy" as my partner. I would want a girl that gives herself her place and doesn't bang just any guy just because he spends 3 hours at the gym or owns a nice car.

This is **** buddy material at is best.
 

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I see sex differently now than I used to. Before I couldn't stop thinking about my ex having sex with other guys, but now I guess I'm slowly moving on. My ex was my first and so I was to her. Needless to say she's been with two guys now after we broke up. She still drives me crazy sometimes. I've made out with a few girls after the break up, but no sex, and to this day I still think about her.

Anyways, for me sex is a way for both men and women to have fun period. I don't care about the girls' number anymore, because the number to me does not tell what kind of person she is. The way I see it, I can f*ck as many girls as I can and at the end of the day I'm still that same person, you know what I mean?

What matters to me is how she is as a person and how we get along.

To answer your question though, I feel 25 before the age of 20 is very high. My ex just turned 20 and she's been with probably 3 guys including me. Don't ask how I know. We all have that one girl who we messed up on. Most of the girls I know are at their early 20s and from what I know most of them hasn't even reached 5 yet. Most of them are Asians which are more into exclusivity I guess. 25 is definitely a high number to me unless you are a guy who happens to be a real dj, then you should be at least dating 3 girls at the same time and just f*cking girls left and right.
 

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For a bit of perspective, from Jenna Jameson (pornstar) Wikipedia page:
In 2004 Jameson stated that she was bisexual, and that she had had sex with 100 women and 30 men off-screen in her life
So here we have a pornstar who admits to having sex with 30 guys by age 30 and yet there's this guy and others in this thread who agree with him :lol: :lol:

I don't think 25 sexual partners for a moderately attractive 21-24 year old woman is a high estimate. In fact, I think it's very conservative. Assuming she started having sex when she was 15, that's only 3-5 guys a year. Think about all the boyfriends, FWBs, summer/winter break flings, spring break hookups, 1 night stands, etc, it really adds up.
 

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I don't think 25 sex partners for a woman by her 25th birthday is the norm. There are too many women in some sort of extended relationship during high school, college (if attending), and early 20s for her to put up that notch count.

Female notch counts in general are rising, mainly due to a small percentage of women who get around. That would raise the female average but the median (50th percentile) notch count likely hasn't risen as fast as the average.
 

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My girl got 30 bodies by 32 years old, sadly I learned the info after I been with her 2 years.

I'm so conflicted between hating and loving her. She shows 0 signs or traits of being a hoe, but she was/is a hoe. I'm glad I have been through this now so I can properly vet next time. I've smashed 50+ but it makes no difference.

I'm still sticking this relationship out because I simply don't have time (I work 16 hours a day on my consultancy business) or inclination to find a new, good quality woman. Also because for right now, peace and pvssy is all I need from a woman. I'm still in build mode and don't see a point in ending a relationship that I know I won't be committing to anyway.

Since I learned this info a few months ago I've been working out extra hard, quit all drugs (I used to do coke or weed on the odd occasion) and stopped drinking. She's getting scared, women know when you're about to bounce, she hasn't put a foot wrong, I still hate her.
 

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No it's not. All women downplay their true count (If they are smart) but 25+ isn't a good number. Most women won't know that many ****s unless they are raging party sluts. She is meant for and belongs to the streets.

Most guys start to feel uneasy if they find out she has had more than a few boyfriends (with good reason), so why would 20+ different ****s in her vag be any different?
 

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No it's not. All women downplay their true count (If they are smart) but 25+ isn't a good number. Most women won't know that many ****s unless they are raging party sluts. She is meant for and belongs to the streets.

Most guys start to feel uneasy if they find out she has had more than a few boyfriends (with good reason), so why would 20+ different ****s in her vag be any different?
I think this "party slut" thing needs to stop. Hoes these days are getting smashed on tinder, many never stepping foot in a club or bar. They are smashed in rented apartments and rented cars after a swipe on an app.

I only say this as some people reading might think if a girl doesn't drink and party she hasn't been ran through. They've all been ran through.

I'd feel more uneasy if a girl said she only had 1 boyfriend or if there was a gap, that means she's been run through. I'll take 5 boyfriends back to back over "boyfriend in highschool then one when i was 21 and nothing since".
 
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