Is it really "dry spell" if....

[TheLadiesMan]

...you can get it anytime, but just not with peeps who are up to your standards?

It's going on a month now...... ...I don't want to call the ex.

 

[Warrior74]

wind up merchant?

 

[squirrels]

...you can get it anytime, but just not with peeps who are up to your standards?

It's going on a month now...... ...I don't want to call the ex.

What's your point? Anyone can call up a mid-tier or better hooker and get laid, which is no different than you calling your ex. It's a compromise in self-esteem.

But yes, you're in a dry spell.

A month is mild. It's been like 2 years for me.

 

[Warrior74]

What's your point? Anyone can call up a mid-tier or better hooker and get laid, which is no different than you calling your ex. It's a compromise in self-esteem.

But yes, you're in a dry spell.

A month is mild. It's been like 2 years for me.

2 Years! Why? What is your reason for that?

 

[phillyb]

2 Years! Why? What is your reason for that?

My dry spell is going on 7 months now


God I want some vitamin P......

 

[sodbuster]

Some of us don't compromise. I've regretted many of the times I've compromised on my standards with women. Although 2 years seems more intentional[taking a break,self improvement etc. Dental School for me] than accidental. If it was accidental,DA^^ you are fussy.

 

[betterthandead]

whatever you do during your dry session is to not get desperate (pay for *****s, bang women you find unattractive.)

 

[brian123]

What good does it do to sink below your standards?

To each his own, but for me personally, I don't like to lower my standards. ALL female hookup relationships contain drama. Some very little, some alot. I only want to regulate myself to this varying level of drama if the girl is worth it.

I wouldn't worry about it dude. Work on yourself and worthy girls will come your way.

 

[backbreaker]

I think the w hole "dry spell" thing is more media driven crap. first off, a dry spell assumses that your only goal in life is getting laid. While I do get laid and have no problem getting laid, if I were not to get any for a while, it would not be that big a deal becuase IT's not that big a deal.

A real dry spell for me is stop working out for 4 months and gaining weight. Stop putting in the work it is to be a successful person becuase I dont' 'feel like it', not deciding to go out and find some woman and parlay a night into some pointless sex, just so I can say I'm not in a "dry spell".

nothing wrong with getting it, but nothing is wrong with not getting it either.

 

[Warrior74]

yah well, lowering your standards eh? Do you think your standards are realistic? I have a few friends who have totally unrealistic standards and haven't had sex in a few years because of it.

I'll say this. When your getting laid, you tend to get laid more. Sometimes you have to get the ball rolling. It may not be a mansion, but you gotta get a starter home at some point and work your way up. You can't be homeless and say "I want a mansion! but I refuse to live anywhere until I get one!" You wouldn't know what to do with it when you got it and will probably loose it from lack of home ownership experience, if you follow my analogy. Think it over gents.

 

[Drum&Bass]

what exactly does "up to your standards" mean ???

 

[brian123]

yah well, lowering your standards eh? Do you think your standards are realistic? I have a few friends who have totally unrealistic standards and haven't had sex in a few years because of it.

I'll say this. When your getting laid, you tend to get laid more. Sometimes you have to get the ball rolling. It may not be a mansion, but you gotta get a starter home at some point and work your way up. You can't be homeless and say "I want a mansion! but I refuse to live anywhere until I get one!" You wouldn't know what to do with it when you got it and will probably loose it from lack of home ownership experience, if you follow my analogy. Think it over gents.

My standards are realistic. Every guy is different, but Id rather focus my time on getting girls up to my standards. By my standards, I mean girls who when I am out with them, I am proud to be with someone that hot/great etc... I COULD have sex with several girls who are ok, but I'd rather not deal with it. Like I said, every guy is different and this is just me & my choices.

Id rather not waste a minute of time on girls "below me." Id rather not get any, then get it all the time from them.

I agree with the above poster. If getting laid in life is your ONLY goal, then you live a pretty sad life. I try to focus on other things and leave the girl hunting to the side. When I do this, more attractive girls come to me.

 

[STR8UP]

I think the w hole "dry spell" thing is more media driven crap. first off, a dry spell assumses that your only goal in life is getting laid. While I do get laid and have no problem getting laid, if I were not to get any for a while, it would not be that big a deal becuase IT's not that big a deal.

A real dry spell for me is stop working out for 4 months and gaining weight. Stop putting in the work it is to be a successful person becuase I dont' 'feel like it', not deciding to go out and find some woman and parlay a night into some pointless sex, just so I can say I'm not in a "dry spell".

nothing wrong with getting it, but nothing is wrong with not getting it either.

I've found that sex in general, is overrated. I have only been with two women that I have considered to be "good" in bed. The rest were mediocre.

Sex always comes along one way or another. I don't often go out specifically looking for it, so I might end up with back to back sex with multiple women for awhile, then I might get tied up with work or something and I might go for months without.

Either way it's no big deal.

 

[Colossus]

I'll say this. When your getting laid, you tend to get laid more. Sometimes you have to get the ball rolling. It may not be a mansion, but you gotta get a starter home at some point and work your way up. You can't be homeless and say "I want a mansion! but I refuse to live anywhere until I get one!" You wouldn't know what to do with it when you got it and will probably loose it from lack of home ownership experience, if you follow my analogy. Think it over gents.

Wise and true words, my friends.

Sex comes and goes. But--you need to have boundaries, no matter how dry it gets. You might die from lack of water, but you certainly wont die from lack of pvssy.

 

[TheLadiesMan]

I just want to say.... that I am truly blessed to have the women that I do in my life right now, truly blessed. I want to love them all, and I mean that in every way.

I have standards... that she's pretty (and they're all pretty) and that she's cool... and a lot can fall under cool.

I don't card, and I don't discriminate. I'm an equal opportunity lover.

I'm just at another crossroads... and I've been a father more than anything else, lately.

 

[decades]

anybody ride buses and subways? all those unhappy people you see are getting laid. there is a message in there somewhere.

 

[Aenigma]

What's your point? Anyone can call up a mid-tier or better hooker and get laid, which is no different than you calling your ex. It's a compromise in self-esteem.

But yes, you're in a dry spell.

A month is mild. It's been like 2 years for me.

2 years isn't a dry spell; it's a drought of biblical proportions.

 

[AIRWARRIOR71]

Just gotta remember, when sex is the goal...watch what you wish for...you might just get it!

Personally, I've done without in the 2 or so year range, mainly because I have medical stuff going on that its not a big desire or need for me right now, and I don't have the mental energy to hafta deal with drama from someone I don't have a serious interest in. The longer you go, the less you worry about where you are going to find it next. It goes also to being able to walk away from someone who isn't what you want or desire. Keep yer thing under control or "it" will have you chasing anything that looks your way...lmao!

I just like to think it might also be an age thing with me...I sowed my wild oats over many years and its not a big issue to get the physical act going...you can find that anywhere. I would rather the chick be up there on my interest level and scale and not worry if I can nail her or not, but spend the time seeing whether she is what I am interested in or not without the wrong head making the decisions!

 

[edger]

This is when you opt for a nice piece of ass like this: http://www.flickr.com/photos/jaccodotorg/990620979/sizes/m/ for 50 Euros(about 75 US Dollars) in the Red-Light District of Amsterdam. This is an actual photo of a prostitute in the Red-Light District.

Going back next week baby for my 3rd trip to f*ck like an animal . I fly for free, so it works out great.

 

[Señor Fingers]

It's only a dry spell if you are unable to get any action - like being in the desert without any water. If you are turning down poon, then its a different story.

This is actually a pretty common problem for guys who get good with women - you get to the stage where it is harder to FIND someone worth your time/effort, than actually gaming them. I gotta tell you, it is really rare that I see women nowadays that I would consider hitting up if I was single, and that is just based on looks!

Food for thought:

Maybe you should try reframing the dry spell to an "I spell". Focus a bit more on enjoying yourself, getting out and being social just for the fun of it. Hang with your bros - paint the town, let your hair down and all those other fun cliches. Your happiness should NEVER hinge on pvssy!

The irony of this approach is that you are more likely to hook yourself a hottie with little effort on your part. Desire - Necessity = The Right Vibe