"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Is it possible to have LTR if you travel full-time?

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I'm pushing 30 and considering the future. I don't believe that we are supposed to spend our whole lives number closing, dating, etc. Eventually I wish to get married. But my job pretty much rules out marriage or any kind of LTR.

I have the DJ dream job. I tour with a band full-time internationally. I love it and I certainly wouldn't drop it for any woman. I have access to a quality and quantity of women I couldn't dream of in the US.

Among the downsides to the job is that I'm home only a couple weeks per year. We stay put at each gig for 3 or 4 months then move to the next one.

Every women I've considered for something long term quickly rules out a future based on my job. Many have tried to get me to quit and find a regular day job in whatever country they happen to live in.

Can anyone relate to this? Is this job and a LTR mutually exclusive?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Get her to manage your tours or something. Give her a job with you so you guys go along together.
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Would be cool, but isn't possible. From a business perspective, the budget won't support it, and we already have an agent who has this circuit locked up. Road management issues are handled by the band or venue.

I could just take them with me. Other members have had gfs with them before, but all of the women I've met have their own commitments (school, job, etc) that would prevent them from traveling. I don't stay with them long enough for them to risk losing what they have.
 
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What's more important to you? Any type of relationship needs interaction at least semi regularly. The only LTRs that I've ever heard that worked in similar situations were those that were already establish. It's usually next to impossible to build a relationship from scratch without regular interactions.
 
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