"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Is it possible to have LTR if you travel full-time?

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I'm pushing 30 and considering the future. I don't believe that we are supposed to spend our whole lives number closing, dating, etc. Eventually I wish to get married. But my job pretty much rules out marriage or any kind of LTR.

I have the DJ dream job. I tour with a band full-time internationally. I love it and I certainly wouldn't drop it for any woman. I have access to a quality and quantity of women I couldn't dream of in the US.

Among the downsides to the job is that I'm home only a couple weeks per year. We stay put at each gig for 3 or 4 months then move to the next one.

Every women I've considered for something long term quickly rules out a future based on my job. Many have tried to get me to quit and find a regular day job in whatever country they happen to live in.

Can anyone relate to this? Is this job and a LTR mutually exclusive?
 

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Get her to manage your tours or something. Give her a job with you so you guys go along together.
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Would be cool, but isn't possible. From a business perspective, the budget won't support it, and we already have an agent who has this circuit locked up. Road management issues are handled by the band or venue.

I could just take them with me. Other members have had gfs with them before, but all of the women I've met have their own commitments (school, job, etc) that would prevent them from traveling. I don't stay with them long enough for them to risk losing what they have.
 
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What's more important to you? Any type of relationship needs interaction at least semi regularly. The only LTRs that I've ever heard that worked in similar situations were those that were already establish. It's usually next to impossible to build a relationship from scratch without regular interactions.
 
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