"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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There is this girl a liked for awhile, but she no longer has those sort of feelings for me. I do have some for her, but they are not as strong as they once were. My question is how do I go from liking her that way to liking her as a friend? She is so fun to hang out with I just want to be her friend because I don't think she deserves more than that from me and we are close friends. I'm thinking that if I spend plenty of time away from her and don't think about her anymore I will be ready, but I'm not sure. Let me know how you guys would go about this.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by DaneB
There is this girl a liked for awhile, but she no longer has those sort of feelings for me. I do have some for her, but they are not as strong as they once were. My question is how do I go from liking her that way to liking her as a friend? She is so fun to hang out with I just want to be her friend because I don't think she deserves more than that from me and we are close friends. I'm thinking that if I spend plenty of time away from her and don't think about her anymore I will be ready, but I'm not sure. Let me know how you guys would go about this.
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Going through the same thing myself...I honestly don't have expert adivce for you, as I haven't been through many breakups. All the "experts" I know say to have clean break.
To me, I just think that when I do see them again, I'm going to get exicted, and I'm going to feel romantic about them again. Well the alternative wouldn't be much better I think, (Seeing them too soon, when you are not friends yet.)
Who knows...
 
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The solution to this problem is getting another girl.

Why do you want to be friends with her? Be honest with yourself and read the DJ bible again.
 
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I would say make friends with this girl.

The only difference between being friends with this girl, and maintaining control is that you don't make any moves on her. You just hang out, forget that kissing her is even an option.

At this point, and for as long as you know her you will likely feel that tension to bone her straight up... just ignore it.
 
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