"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

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There is this girl a liked for awhile, but she no longer has those sort of feelings for me. I do have some for her, but they are not as strong as they once were. My question is how do I go from liking her that way to liking her as a friend? She is so fun to hang out with I just want to be her friend because I don't think she deserves more than that from me and we are close friends. I'm thinking that if I spend plenty of time away from her and don't think about her anymore I will be ready, but I'm not sure. Let me know how you guys would go about this.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by DaneB
There is this girl a liked for awhile, but she no longer has those sort of feelings for me. I do have some for her, but they are not as strong as they once were. My question is how do I go from liking her that way to liking her as a friend? She is so fun to hang out with I just want to be her friend because I don't think she deserves more than that from me and we are close friends. I'm thinking that if I spend plenty of time away from her and don't think about her anymore I will be ready, but I'm not sure. Let me know how you guys would go about this.
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Going through the same thing myself...I honestly don't have expert adivce for you, as I haven't been through many breakups. All the "experts" I know say to have clean break.
To me, I just think that when I do see them again, I'm going to get exicted, and I'm going to feel romantic about them again. Well the alternative wouldn't be much better I think, (Seeing them too soon, when you are not friends yet.)
Who knows...
 
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The solution to this problem is getting another girl.

Why do you want to be friends with her? Be honest with yourself and read the DJ bible again.
 
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I would say make friends with this girl.

The only difference between being friends with this girl, and maintaining control is that you don't make any moves on her. You just hang out, forget that kissing her is even an option.

At this point, and for as long as you know her you will likely feel that tension to bone her straight up... just ignore it.
 
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