"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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There is this girl a liked for awhile, but she no longer has those sort of feelings for me. I do have some for her, but they are not as strong as they once were. My question is how do I go from liking her that way to liking her as a friend? She is so fun to hang out with I just want to be her friend because I don't think she deserves more than that from me and we are close friends. I'm thinking that if I spend plenty of time away from her and don't think about her anymore I will be ready, but I'm not sure. Let me know how you guys would go about this.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by DaneB
There is this girl a liked for awhile, but she no longer has those sort of feelings for me. I do have some for her, but they are not as strong as they once were. My question is how do I go from liking her that way to liking her as a friend? She is so fun to hang out with I just want to be her friend because I don't think she deserves more than that from me and we are close friends. I'm thinking that if I spend plenty of time away from her and don't think about her anymore I will be ready, but I'm not sure. Let me know how you guys would go about this.
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Going through the same thing myself...I honestly don't have expert adivce for you, as I haven't been through many breakups. All the "experts" I know say to have clean break.
To me, I just think that when I do see them again, I'm going to get exicted, and I'm going to feel romantic about them again. Well the alternative wouldn't be much better I think, (Seeing them too soon, when you are not friends yet.)
Who knows...
 
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The solution to this problem is getting another girl.

Why do you want to be friends with her? Be honest with yourself and read the DJ bible again.
 
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I would say make friends with this girl.

The only difference between being friends with this girl, and maintaining control is that you don't make any moves on her. You just hang out, forget that kissing her is even an option.

At this point, and for as long as you know her you will likely feel that tension to bone her straight up... just ignore it.
 
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