Is it possible to date a Borderline Personality Disorder co worker?

[Speculator E]

I just discovered the girl I'm dating at work has BPD. Is it possible to make it work? She will be my 2nd BPD relationship but unlike the first one I am educated about the disorder this time.

 

[ohrein]

Nope.

 

[HeadLightsOn]

I can't believe this is a serious question. Co worker AND BPD - Mmmmmm that's a jackpot of misery! Are you slightly screwed up, seriously? Please date her and post back here in 6 months or so. I'd be interested in your state of mental health at that stage.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Border line and at work, that would be insane. She could get stressed and come after you in the work place and make your life a living hell.

 

[Tictac]

I just discovered the girl I'm dating at work has BPD. Is it possible to make it work? She will be my 2nd BPD relationship but unlike the first one I am educated about the disorder this time.

LOL

 

[old_skoolr]

 

[Speculator E]

I can't believe this is a serious question. Co worker AND BPD - Mmmmmm that's a jackpot of misery! Are you slightly screwed up, seriously? Please date her and post back here in 6 months or so. I'd be interested in your state of mental health at that stage.

I know but I'm trapped. The root of her disorder is fear of abandonment which is what leaving her is. It's her triggers. If I leave now I really have no where to run. I need help and advice here. Seriously.

 

[Speculator E]

Border line and at work, that would be insane. She could get stressed and come after you in the work place and make your life a living hell.

She already has twice. That's how I know now.

 

[Solomon]

Good luck OP you gonna need it

 

[Desdinova]

I need help and advice here. Seriously.

Don't stick your d1nk in the company ink.
Don't date BPD women

There's your advice.

 

[Tictac]

Don't stick your d1nk in the company ink.
Don't date BPD women

There's your advice.

SpecE was told exactly this weeks ago by everyone that responded to his original thread.

But he knew better.

 

[Bible_Belt]

BPD = Bad Pvssy Decisions

 

[Stugots26]

It's also possible to stick your d!ck in a fan, but I wouldn't recommend that either.

 

[Infern0]

OP, this is the exact scenario that happened to me

Well, I didn't even know about BPD at the time, let alone that she had it, but I met a full on waif-bpd at work

At first she was just this coworker who had depression and seemed sad a lot of the time, so i used to just tell her jokes and try and have a laugh and that, she ended up idealizing me. I didn't want to go there because she was a co-worker but she seemed really nice and caring, and she chased me for months so eventually i gave in.

When the devaluation happened, she very, very nearly got me fired. I had built a good reputation at work and was seen as someone who was going to go far in the company. After what she put me through I had a double whammy of disciplinary action laid upon me for her acting out, which i got blamed for too, and post that I had a nervous breakdown due to her emotionally torturing me for weeks. (afc on my part but i didn't know better at the time)

Anyway my rep at work is ruined, I only managed to keep my job by going over my (female) bosses head to her (male) boss, who was actually very understanding of my situation and quietly managed my ex out of the company.

I still have my job but i will NEVER be promoted now, I understand that, and i'll be getting a new job somewhere when it becomes available.

BPD's should never be trifled with, ever. But if you absoloutley have to make sure she doesn't know where you live or work, and certainly that she isn't a coworker

Get out of the relationship as soon as you can, in the nicest way you can (grey rock technique)

You won't though, you are too far in, the destruction is on it's way

 

[Atom Smasher]

OP, if you were "educated about the disorder" you wouldn't be asking this question.

 

[Desdinova]

SpecE was told exactly this weeks ago by everyone that responded to his original thread.

But he knew better.

I'm guessing this is the same chick:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/index....ade-a-harassment-compliant-against-me.231272/

 

[Tictac]

I'm guessing this is the same chick:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/index....ade-a-harassment-compliant-against-me.231272/

It's been chapter after chapter with this guy.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/index....-male-coworkers-want-and-hate-you-for.233318/

No tears.

 

[bigneil]

It's possible to have a gay love affair with your jail cell mate also, but I don't recommend it.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

You should have her move in with you too!

 

[Tictac]

Another case of BPD meaning 'she doesn't like me so she's diagnosable'.

SpecE has been harassing this woman at the office for weeks if not months and imagining that she's into him. He's been hauled into HR once already yet he still stalks her.

Behavior has consequences @Speculator E. Welcome to yours.