Is it possible for one event to drastically impact the course of a man's dating/sex life?

[BPH]

I read the story you posted about your high school experience. To circle back to the initial question on my thread (whether one event can significantly alter a dude's dating/sex life), it sounds like you really might have become an incel if you hadn't transferred high schools. So yeah, that one event (switching high schools) likely had a massive impact on the trajectory of your luck with the ladies.

That event did not have a massive impact on my success with women.

My first high school brought a bully from my middle school into the mix who gave me a hard time. It was a science/math-focused school and it was incredibly hard to maintain good grades, so staying there likely would've made it difficult to get into a decent college. Because of the issue with grades, I also did not have time to participate in sports or any extracurriculars. Furthermore, this school was about a 30 minute bus ride, compared to my second school, which was only 10 minutes.

Did transferring schools significantly affect my luck with the ladies? Absolutely not. If anything, I was missing out by making this change. The first school I went to was a charter school which shared their building with a school that focused on theater. There were so many hot girls...one of which directly led to me convincing my parents to give me texting privileges on my cell phone (I met a girl at one of the school dances who gave me her number and told me to text her - until then I was only allowed to use my phone for calling).

I traded that to go to my feeder pattern school, which was mostly comprised of inner city kids. There were 1 or 2 really attractive girls, and they were in long-term relationships throughout my entire stay - one of which dated my best friend at the time, so she was especially off-limits. I didn't even go to my own school prom because there was nobody I wanted to ask. Remember, I used to have to go to the mall to meet women I found attractive, because there weren't any in my school - and I did, the one I lost my virginity to.

Did this decision affect my luck with the ladies? Hell no.

Did this decision affect my overall trajectory in life? Hell yes.

I was able to play sports, improve my grades, join the honor's society, have a social life, become popular since I no longer had a bully bringing up my past, and get into the colleges I applied for.

Fixate on what matters, rather than what you want to be true.

 

[SW15]

Did this decision affect my luck with the ladies? Hell no.

Did this decision affect my overall trajectory in life? Hell yes.

Trajectory in life can be important and there could be an indirect effect.

You have gotten laid due to working out, LASIK, dental work, general hygiene, and a personality where you remain emotionally centered during women's crap tests.

 

[GoodMan32]

That event did not have a massive impact on my success with women.

My first high school brought a bully from my middle school into the mix who gave me a hard time. It was a science/math-focused school and it was incredibly hard to maintain good grades, so staying there likely would've made it difficult to get into a decent college. Because of the issue with grades, I also did not have time to participate in sports or any extracurriculars. Furthermore, this school was about a 30 minute bus ride, compared to my second school, which was only 10 minutes.

Did transferring schools significantly affect my luck with the ladies? Absolutely not. If anything, I was missing out by making this change. The first school I went to was a charter school which shared their building with a school that focused on theater. There were so many hot girls...one of which directly led to me convincing my parents to give me texting privileges on my cell phone (I met a girl at one of the school dances who gave me her number and told me to text her - until then I was only allowed to use my phone for calling).

I traded that to go to my feeder pattern school, which was mostly comprised of inner city kids. There were 1 or 2 really attractive girls, and they were in long-term relationships throughout my entire stay - one of which dated my best friend at the time, so she was especially off-limits. I didn't even go to my own school prom because there was nobody I wanted to ask. Remember, I used to have to go to the mall to meet women I found attractive, because there weren't any in my school - and I did, the one I lost my virginity to.

Did this decision affect my luck with the ladies? Hell no.

Did this decision affect my overall trajectory in life? Hell yes.

I was able to play sports, improve my grades, join the honor's society, have a social life, become popular since I no longer had a bully bringing up my past, and get into the colleges I applied for.

Fixate on what matters, rather than what you want to be true.

I'm intrigued you've shared more.

The fact you left a charter school to attend an inner city school, no matter what the reasoning, shows a massively poor level of judgment on your part. Yet you expect me to take the unsolicited advice you've given me.

 

[BPH]

I'm intrigued you've shared more.

The fact you left a charter school to attend an inner city school, no matter what the reasoning, shows a massively poor level of judgment on your part. Yet you expect me to take the unsolicited advice you've given me.

You've said a lot of dumb sh**, but this takes the cake:

"Because you chose to stop attending a charter school, despite all the benefits it led to in your life that you just described, that shows poor judgement. So even though you sleep with women for free, and often, and I have to pay for it or wait 4+ years, I'm going to disregard your advice on this topic because I disagree with your judgement on another."

Holy f*** man, you deserve your failure...

 

[SW15]

stop attending a charter school

Regardless of who made the decision, the high school change was inconsequential to your overall life path as a seducer. It's amazing that this is even a discussion point.

 

[BaronOfHair]

I've mentioned the last woman I had free sex with was born in 1978. If we examine the topic deeper, the last three free partners I've had were born in 1978, 1972, and 1969

You could've had a lot more than 3, if you pursued women in your age bracket and younger

 

[GoodMan32]

You could've had a lot more than 3, if you pursued women in your age bracket and younger

I have a female coworker born in 96. Pretty sure she's a fellow autist (she mentioned she's watched Love On The Spectrum). I'm attracted to her.

We really hit it off (and we've begun chatting more and more lately).

A relationship she had with a coworker recently ended (my point of mentioning this: she's obviously willing to date coworkers).

I like where this is heading.

I've had free partners close in age to me by the way. A 1989 baby has my v-card.

Fixing that pear shaped female physique will take some time. It's a necessary step since looks are #1.

There are mindset and personality issues that need fixing too.



Your counselor mocked men without exploring the potential for the existence of Oedipal issues. That sounds like a feminist.



Most men in their 30s and 40s would have interest in doing that. Most men in their 30s and 40s would not have the opportunity to do it.

Men in their 30s aren't usually chasing women old enough to be their mothers.

I'm pretty sure my counselor is a feminist. Most female counselors are.

My counselor is also obese (which might explain why she criticizes men who want a woman with a perfect body)

 

[BillyPilgrim]

I have a female coworker born in 96. Pretty sure she's a fellow autist (she mentioned she's watched Love On The Spectrum). I'm attracted to her.

We really hit it off (and we've begun chatting more and more lately).

A relationship she had with a coworker recently ended (my point of mentioning this: she's obviously willing to date coworkers).

I like where this is heading.

I've had free partners close in age to me by the way. A 1989 baby has my v-card.



I'm pretty sure my counselor is a feminist. Most female counselors are.

My counselor is also obese (which might explain why she criticizes men who want a woman with a perfect body)

I'd beware the female autist, I get the impression they are extra-sensitive and at the same time less communicative about it, and also less receptive to touch. It's good you know her already, but I'd make a point to proceed with caution. She may well like you but try to go a little slower unless there are obvious green lights.

 

[GoodMan32]

I'd beware the female autist, I get the impression they are extra-sensitive and at the same time less communicative about it, and also less receptive to touch. It's good you know her already, but I'd make a point to proceed with caution. She may well like you but try to go a little slower unless there are obvious green lights.

I'm never going to officially ask her out (no way would I ask out a coworker)

As optimistic as it might sound, I'm hoping we'll naturally progress (without me having to ask her out)

Female autists can be a can of worms, you're right.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

I'm never going to officially ask her out (no way would I ask out a coworker)

As optimistic as it might sound, I'm hoping we'll naturally progress (without me having to ask her out)

Female autists can be a can of worms, you're right.

Whatever you do, no kids. Lolz

 

[BaronOfHair]

I have a female coworker born in 96. Pretty sure she's a fellow autist (she mentioned she's watched Love On The Spectrum). I'm attracted to her

You're drawn to people who are hazardous to your health

 

[SW15]

I'm never going to officially ask her out (no way would I ask out a coworker)

In general, this is a good idea in office work. While lower wage service sector workers can get away with mating interactions in the workplace, it's a lot more difficult in office work type environments.

As optimistic as it might sound, I'm hoping we'll naturally progress (without me having to ask her out)

This doesn't happen.

I can't imagine a female autist taking initiative.

 

[GoodMan32]

You're drawn to people who are hazardous to your health

Ok, it's one thing to criticize my age preference.

Yet apparently even when I turn out to be into a woman close in age to me, you still take issue.

In general, this is a good idea in office work. While lower wage service sector workers can get away with mating interactions in the workplace, it's a lot more difficult in office work type environments.



This doesn't happen.

I can't imagine a female autist taking initiative.

My coworker doesn't necessarily have to take initiative. Sometimes when a dude and a girl are a good fit, it just naturally happens (with neither party making the official move)

Whatever you do, no kids. Lolz

I don't want to pollute a woman's womb with my genes.

 

[SW15]

Sometimes when a dude and a girl are a good fit, it just naturally happens (with neither party making the official move)

This is blue pill ideology. In 25+ years in the mating environment, I have never seen this actually happen in the real world.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Yet apparently even when I turn out to be into a woman close in age to me, you still take issue.

You think it wise to date another autist, assuming of course that this diagnosis you received back in HS is accurate?

 

[GoodMan32]

This is blue pill ideology. In 25+ years in the mating environment, I have never seen this actually happen in the real world.

My last instance of free sex was like that. While there was flirting off and on for 2 years leading up to the sex, neither of us necessarily made the official move on the day the sex happened.

It just sort of happened.

Same thing with that date in 2023 I've posted about. Neither the woman nor I necessarily made the official move. Having the date was something that just sorta happened after the woman turned out to prefer me over the man I was wingmaning for.

You think it wise to date another autist, assuming of course that this diagnosis you received back in HS is accurate?

Logically, it makes sense (as autists understand each other)

That being said, many female autists are toxic misandrists (for some reason, radical feminism is more common among female autists than female neurotypicals). So I wouldn't want to date the typical female autist.

My coworker, on the other hand, appears to be decent.

Also worth mentioning is that we don't even know for a fact she's an autist. All I can do is speculate based on the fact she's watched an autist show, the fact she's unfamiliar with social norms to some degree, the fact she's naive (28, yet her inner age appears to be 18), and the fact that (other than chatting with a few coworkers) she generally keeps to herself at work.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Logically, it makes sense (as autists understand each other)

Only if we're using the sort of shoddy logic which dictates that going to the cops when a crime is committed is ALWAYS a wise move, no matter the circumstances, and whereabouts in the world you happen to be at the time

Pairing up with someone that shares your diagnosis is similar to two junkies or Cluster B types getting hooked up... You're just further compounding your dysfunction

 

[CornbreadFed]

This is blue pill ideology. In 25+ years in the mating environment, I have never seen this actually happen in the real world.

I gotta disagree lol. I feel like most couples I see today look like they could be siblings or met through some convenient mutual environment. Edit: I was too lazy to deep search for the original post btw lol.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

You're drawn to people who are hazardous to your health

OP is hazardous to his own health, why are you surprised?

If Bullsh!t was worth a dime he'd have a job in a cow's ass.

 

[BaronOfHair]

This is blue pill ideology

It's actually worse than that:

GM is engaged in textbook magical thinking. What he's doing here is the equivalent of a 9th grader fantasizing about creating some invention so earth shattering, it puts billions in his bank account before he's 21, thus exempting him from the toil and sweat that damned near EVERY prosperous man in the history of our species has had to exert, in order to succeed. Such thinking isn't even worthy of being written off as childish, nonetheless an increasingly large segment of our society is adopting it