"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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is it possible for girls to be nervous without the usual signs that one is nervous?

nando

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Like without fidgety behavior or stuttering?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I'd assume yes but that it's usually not the case. But possibly.

Anyway, what are some of the usual signs?
 

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fidgeting
stuttering
facial tick
very quiet or starts giggling
staring at the ground
all nervous signs
 

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nando said:
Like without fidgety behavior or stuttering?
No its not because they have all the power. Girls never get nervous unless they are older and become desparate.
 

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DonJuan11 said:
No its not because they have all the power. Girls never get nervous unless they are older and become desparate.
nah bro, i know a lot of girls who get nervous when they talk to me and it is very obvious, they fidget and stutter, and move around. But when I was out of shape i never got that reaction from chicks.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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nando said:
nah bro, i know a lot of girls who get nervous when they talk to me and it is very obvious, they fidget and stutter, and move around. But when I was out of shape i never got that reaction from chicks.

OUT OF SHAPE = HARMLESS
 

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out of shape means harmless? not necessarily lol
 

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nando said:
nah bro, i know a lot of girls who get nervous when they talk to me and it is very obvious, they fidget and stutter, and move around. But when I was out of shape i never got that reaction from chicks.
Being in great shape=more physical attraction=more value. People are more prone to be nervous when they feel they could lose something of value. It's much easier for a girl to imagine you as an amazing guy when you're in great shape.

Chicks get nervous in a very different way than guys do around girls. I'd describe it more as excitement than a feeling of fear that seems to accompany guys when they're around a girl they're attracted to. (I'm a guy btw.)
 

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Chicks get nervous in a very different way than guys do around girls. I'd describe it more as excitement than a feeling of fear that seems to accompany guys when they're around a girl they're attracted to.
EXACTLY. They have something we want. If they don't get it from us, they can just do down the street and get it from the next guy. They have absolutely no reason to be nervous under any circumstances.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Dam this one babe did all of these when I am around her in that order too does this mean I am hot? Wink

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penkitten said:
fidgeting
stuttering
facial tick
very quiet or starts giggling
staring at the ground
all nervous signs
 

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LoneSilver said:
Dam this one babe did all of these when I am around her in that order too does this mean I am hot? Wink

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she probably thinks so :)
 

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girls get nervous but its a lot harder to tell. Its more like lots of smiling and laughing than stuttering or fidgetting.
 
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