Long story short I'm 19 years old, freshman in college. I met this girl in 8th grade and she was all over me, even eventually asked me out. I was too damn shy and had NO GAME whatsoever. I was literally incompetent to do anything but smile at her or completely ignore her because I was so shy. I then went to another school my freshman year and came back to her high school in 10th grade. As a junior, she asked for my phone number and asked me if I was going to homecoming while smiling and clearly flirting. Again, too big of ****ing dumbasssss to respond by asking her out. I mean, I KNEW she liked me and I KNEW I could have her. I just couldn't DO ANYTHING. I was like frozen with shyness because of how much I liked her. Anyways, basically the same thing happened senior year, her locker was right next to mine, yet I ignored her 85% of the time. So, as of right now, she thinks of me as a cute little shy boy, which is obviously not good at all. Being in college, I'm not saying I'm just focusing on her only, I need to get practice and get better at talking to hot girls. What I want to know is that If I work and improve my game while here at college, would it be out of the realm of possibility to expect her to give me another shot in summer and show her I'm different? Or is it over with her?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Is it over for me with this girl?
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Let it go dude, you've already screwed up enough with this chick. Its pretty clear that this has become a one-itis, and you need to stop stressing out over this one girl, forget about her, and practice on other girls.
move on dude. You've had over 5 years with this girl. If anything, I'm surprised she went all through high school still trying to get you to break out of your shell. Girls tend to go nuts their first year of college, don't expect her to wait til next summer for you. Til then she'll be having sex with tons of different guys. I've been in college, I've seen how girls there act towards guys who know what their doing. Don't waste your life waiting for this girl. Break out of your shell and go get all those horny freshmen. I wish I could do the same when I was your age.
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This sounds like something in a Saved By The Bell High school romance, forget that broad. You'll regret waiting for her, start kicking it to some of those naive Freshmans now.
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Hilarious advice, but I agree. Forget this broad. Let her pine and hope for you if she still wishes. I personally can empathize. Girl since 2nd fvckin grade, had a "cubby" and later, locker, right next to mine. She resembled Alicia Silverstone. I never found her THAT attractive, and she knew it, that she didn't have My approval. I look her up on facebook/myspace today, and lo and behold, she's married a dude with my First name. He kind of looks like me. In her pictures, it looks as though she's calling out to me wherever I am. I can see it in her eyes. She seems "detached" from her own husband of their 3 children.
While we should accept advances from women who are interested in Us, it should be soley from the frame of, I'm watching you, I'm finding out whether you're good enough for me or not. We should go after the interested, but never tip the scales of interest in her favor. She should always be leaning on you, or falling on you.
While we should accept advances from women who are interested in Us, it should be soley from the frame of, I'm watching you, I'm finding out whether you're good enough for me or not. We should go after the interested, but never tip the scales of interest in her favor. She should always be leaning on you, or falling on you.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.