Long story short I'm 19 years old, freshman in college. I met this girl in 8th grade and she was all over me, even eventually asked me out. I was too damn shy and had NO GAME whatsoever. I was literally incompetent to do anything but smile at her or completely ignore her because I was so shy. I then went to another school my freshman year and came back to her high school in 10th grade. As a junior, she asked for my phone number and asked me if I was going to homecoming while smiling and clearly flirting. Again, too big of ****ing dumbasssss to respond by asking her out. I mean, I KNEW she liked me and I KNEW I could have her. I just couldn't DO ANYTHING. I was like frozen with shyness because of how much I liked her. Anyways, basically the same thing happened senior year, her locker was right next to mine, yet I ignored her 85% of the time. So, as of right now, she thinks of me as a cute little shy boy, which is obviously not good at all. Being in college, I'm not saying I'm just focusing on her only, I need to get practice and get better at talking to hot girls. What I want to know is that If I work and improve my game while here at college, would it be out of the realm of possibility to expect her to give me another shot in summer and show her I'm different? Or is it over with her?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Is it over for me with this girl?
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Let it go dude, you've already screwed up enough with this chick. Its pretty clear that this has become a one-itis, and you need to stop stressing out over this one girl, forget about her, and practice on other girls.
move on dude. You've had over 5 years with this girl. If anything, I'm surprised she went all through high school still trying to get you to break out of your shell. Girls tend to go nuts their first year of college, don't expect her to wait til next summer for you. Til then she'll be having sex with tons of different guys. I've been in college, I've seen how girls there act towards guys who know what their doing. Don't waste your life waiting for this girl. Break out of your shell and go get all those horny freshmen. I wish I could do the same when I was your age.
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This sounds like something in a Saved By The Bell High school romance, forget that broad. You'll regret waiting for her, start kicking it to some of those naive Freshmans now.
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Hilarious advice, but I agree. Forget this broad. Let her pine and hope for you if she still wishes. I personally can empathize. Girl since 2nd fvckin grade, had a "cubby" and later, locker, right next to mine. She resembled Alicia Silverstone. I never found her THAT attractive, and she knew it, that she didn't have My approval. I look her up on facebook/myspace today, and lo and behold, she's married a dude with my First name. He kind of looks like me. In her pictures, it looks as though she's calling out to me wherever I am. I can see it in her eyes. She seems "detached" from her own husband of their 3 children.
While we should accept advances from women who are interested in Us, it should be soley from the frame of, I'm watching you, I'm finding out whether you're good enough for me or not. We should go after the interested, but never tip the scales of interest in her favor. She should always be leaning on you, or falling on you.
While we should accept advances from women who are interested in Us, it should be soley from the frame of, I'm watching you, I'm finding out whether you're good enough for me or not. We should go after the interested, but never tip the scales of interest in her favor. She should always be leaning on you, or falling on you.
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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.