"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Is it over for me with this girl?

Energy25

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Long story short I'm 19 years old, freshman in college. I met this girl in 8th grade and she was all over me, even eventually asked me out. I was too damn shy and had NO GAME whatsoever. I was literally incompetent to do anything but smile at her or completely ignore her because I was so shy. I then went to another school my freshman year and came back to her high school in 10th grade. As a junior, she asked for my phone number and asked me if I was going to homecoming while smiling and clearly flirting. Again, too big of ****ing dumbasssss to respond by asking her out. I mean, I KNEW she liked me and I KNEW I could have her. I just couldn't DO ANYTHING. I was like frozen with shyness because of how much I liked her. Anyways, basically the same thing happened senior year, her locker was right next to mine, yet I ignored her 85% of the time. So, as of right now, she thinks of me as a cute little shy boy, which is obviously not good at all. Being in college, I'm not saying I'm just focusing on her only, I need to get practice and get better at talking to hot girls. What I want to know is that If I work and improve my game while here at college, would it be out of the realm of possibility to expect her to give me another shot in summer and show her I'm different? Or is it over with her?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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eaglez1177

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Let it go dude, you've already screwed up enough with this chick. Its pretty clear that this has become a one-itis, and you need to stop stressing out over this one girl, forget about her, and practice on other girls.
 

Scion

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move on dude. You've had over 5 years with this girl. If anything, I'm surprised she went all through high school still trying to get you to break out of your shell. Girls tend to go nuts their first year of college, don't expect her to wait til next summer for you. Til then she'll be having sex with tons of different guys. I've been in college, I've seen how girls there act towards guys who know what their doing. Don't waste your life waiting for this girl. Break out of your shell and go get all those horny freshmen. I wish I could do the same when I was your age.
 

Poonani Maker

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Hilarious advice, but I agree. Forget this broad. Let her pine and hope for you if she still wishes. I personally can empathize. Girl since 2nd fvckin grade, had a "cubby" and later, locker, right next to mine. She resembled Alicia Silverstone. I never found her THAT attractive, and she knew it, that she didn't have My approval. I look her up on facebook/myspace today, and lo and behold, she's married a dude with my First name. He kind of looks like me. In her pictures, it looks as though she's calling out to me wherever I am. I can see it in her eyes. She seems "detached" from her own husband of their 3 children.

While we should accept advances from women who are interested in Us, it should be soley from the frame of, I'm watching you, I'm finding out whether you're good enough for me or not. We should go after the interested, but never tip the scales of interest in her favor. She should always be leaning on you, or falling on you.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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