"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
is it ok to request her on facebook?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Once you get to overanalysing things - like so many guys on the forum are - that's when you start letting trivial things ruin your entire "game". You spend the whole time worrying about trivial things to the point that you do nothing else useful at all!
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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But I guess that's how you kids get down these days.
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Add her. And then wait a bit and hit her up whenever you feel like it.
Kailex
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And that's where I stopped reading...duke104 said:
That fragment is indicative of a LOT.
She's in one of your classes, which means constant contact with her... and you're wondering about adding her to your facebook instead of actually asking her (WHEN YOU CONSTANTLY SEE HER) for her number.
Look down.
You know, in between your legs.
Are your testicles still there?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
What good does it do this guy to add her? What if she's the type that's never on Facebook? If this is the case, where does adding this girl get him? If this girl is big into Facebook, she'll make sure to add him if she's at all interested.BeyondCharm said:
kingsam
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1 - its a bit awkward if she delcines your freind request, if you dont know her well enough for her to acccpt
2- you lose all possible mysetry if you wanna see her/date/etc
3- you obviously think shes "ok" so get her no.
SmoothTalker
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All this never text/IM/Facebook stuff is simply behind the times. I know girls that pretty much don't answer the phone (they barely even buy airtime minutes) regardless of who's calling, but they will gladly text. Most people want to be somewhere private, quiet, and not busy before they want to answer a personal call, where as they can discretely text anywhere, any time, at their convenience. As for lacking balls, in some ways it takes more - if you say something risky and it totally flops, it's a lot harder to smoothly back out of it when she has the message stored.
I've also managed to set up dates and sleep with girls who I've never spoken to on the phone, purely in person and then follow up online or by text.
Good or bad, when not in person young people prefer non-spoken communication these days.
Anyway, just add her, but don't be a tool about it. If there's some event/party you're organizing you can send her an invite, and chat a bit if you have something to say, but don't be a loser who's always on her profile 'liking' everything and commenting on every photo.
Brilliant! Finally somebody posted something worthy in this worthless thread.Kailex said:
Moses and John Wayne must be turning over in their graves at the worthless excuse for men we have in this world. I mean really you asking us for advice about adding a girl on facebook when you should be instead asking us for advice on how to conquer this girl and make her yours.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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duke104 said:
No it is not okay. You are a pvssy and your permission to add her on facebook has been denied.
Seriously though, do you want to add her just so you can jack off to her photos?
Because she is in your class already, so talking to her shouldn't be an issue. Why are you, as a "man", asking PERMISSION from us random morons whether you can add a chick on facebook........you are a MAN, do whatever the **** you want to do!!!