Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
Your situation is a textbook example of why I ALWAYS tell young men never to even consider monogamy until 28-30 y.o. and even then being very selective.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Is it ok to make your girlfriend feel like she is not good enough for you?
- Thread starter BobFuest
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Bob I think you should have coughed up the full story at the start. Maybe you have some dominant tendencies and you like to humiliate your GF/ submissive. Perhaps you should formalize the arrangement in some way rather than doing it in an ad hoc fashion. I say this because you have had the "complaint" made by other partners, so you must be eliciting the response.
Also you wouldn't be telling us about it unless you yourself had misgivings.
Also you wouldn't be telling us about it unless you yourself had misgivings.
Comment from a girl
Hi fellas,
A quick comment:
I agree that women are emotionally difficult, BUT the two sexiest, most virile men I've ever met made me feel WONDERFUL about myself - compliments, flowers, apologies after rotten behavior, the whole bit. Their studliness did not depend upon their not giving in to women's emotions, but instead upon their life achievements - both guys are extremely intelligent, successful and in great physical shape.
These men had NO shortage of interested women. We're talking LINES of women. I chatted with one of these men in his office over a 30 min period on one occasion, and I swear that about 5 women came in and out of his office doing him favors over that short period.
There's some way to do both the adoring boyfriend AND the prized stud, and it's not by staring at other women.
I think that the way to do it is to really concentrate on each woman when you are talking/out on a date as though that woman is the sole focus of attention at that time, and not check out/flirt with other women. It's very intoxicating to have a guy's focused attention and admiration, even for the length of a long-term relationship. It will keep your girl around longer than treating yourself as the PRIZE (uh hum).
One of the many reasons that I haven't been tempted to cheat on my husband is that my husband is by my side and showing me off when we're out together.
By the way, don't argue over the flowers, just buy them. You look petty.
Hi fellas,
A quick comment:
I agree that women are emotionally difficult, BUT the two sexiest, most virile men I've ever met made me feel WONDERFUL about myself - compliments, flowers, apologies after rotten behavior, the whole bit. Their studliness did not depend upon their not giving in to women's emotions, but instead upon their life achievements - both guys are extremely intelligent, successful and in great physical shape.
These men had NO shortage of interested women. We're talking LINES of women. I chatted with one of these men in his office over a 30 min period on one occasion, and I swear that about 5 women came in and out of his office doing him favors over that short period.
There's some way to do both the adoring boyfriend AND the prized stud, and it's not by staring at other women.
I think that the way to do it is to really concentrate on each woman when you are talking/out on a date as though that woman is the sole focus of attention at that time, and not check out/flirt with other women. It's very intoxicating to have a guy's focused attention and admiration, even for the length of a long-term relationship. It will keep your girl around longer than treating yourself as the PRIZE (uh hum).
One of the many reasons that I haven't been tempted to cheat on my husband is that my husband is by my side and showing me off when we're out together.
By the way, don't argue over the flowers, just buy them. You look petty.
GuitarOnFire
Senior Don Juan
What? This is IMO horrible advice. It may be intoxicating for the woman to have a guy fawning over her, but it certainly won't lead to a second or third date if the man supplicates. Pay attention to the girl, but don't replace the waiter at the restaurant!minda said:
There is nothing wrong with being the prize. Too many men let the woman be the prize and we all know how those marriages/relationships turn out.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
Looks like common decency is not so common. Being the prize does not equate with being a disrespectful azzhole, nor does having a bit of respect for her by not ogling every hottie while you're out with her equate with being a wuss.
That said, do what you'll do. Perhaps it's better for you to have a FB who won't care that much about your wandering eyes than a GF who will.
That said, do what you'll do. Perhaps it's better for you to have a FB who won't care that much about your wandering eyes than a GF who will.