GorillaPimp
Don Juan
Is it ok to call a female on a game that she is playing on you?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
It depends on the situation.Originally posted by GorillaPimp:
Is it ok to call a female on a game that she is playing on you?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Depends entirely how interested you are, how serious the game is, and whether or not she might be worth the effort.Originally posted by GorillaPimp:
Is it ok to call a female on a game that she is playing on you?
Um...could you kindly direct me to where I said that women ONLY play games if the guy is playing games? Oops...nevermind...you can't do that because that's NOT what I said. IF a woman picks up on a guy playing games, she often will resort to using those very same tactics in response.Originally posted by WildThang:
Depends entirely how interested you are, how serious the game is, and whether or not she might be worth the effort.
There are games like 'Testing conversation' that pretty much all chicks play. Calling them on that is a waste of time because they don't realise they're doing it anyway. So you just need to be able to improvise suave DJ response that shows you're not bothered or shaken or stirred by.
There are more serious games like 'Come and get me - hey, look, now that you've shown some interest I prefer someone else' that are *poison*. If you come across these, get the hell out. Don't bother showing some spine - any chick that does this isn't worth your time, so the best approach is to walk away.
Another thing - there's dealing with games, and there's calling women on games and saying outright 'You're playing a game here - I don't do games.'
As I said, most chicks don't realise that their games are in any way unacceptable. They assume that's just what you do and how you act. So going for the big accusation drama option is a waste.
What you really need is smooth DJ dealing-with skills. Those take practice. But basically if the chick realises that you are your own man, and you're not taking any crap from her, you've won. If she misplays and loses you - remember it's *her loss.*
Oh, and Wyldfire's comment about women will only play games if guys do first is pure chick BS, as usual.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Could you tell us the situation??? My personal opinion is game playing female=low interest level=move on with your life.Originally posted by GorillaPimp:
Is it ok to call a female on a game that she is playing on you?