"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"Is it OK if I flirt?"

Leporello

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I was talking to my gf tonight, and she ws telling me about an activism conference she'll be attending over winter break. It's in a hotel, and she's not 21, and she asked me "Is it ok if I flirt with people so they'll buy be drinks? As long as nothing happens?"

I'm not sure why she asked me; but the fact that she did is encouraging, I guess.

Anyway, what do the rest of you think?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Originally posted by Leporello
I was talking to my gf tonight, and she ws telling me about an activism conference she'll be attending over winter break. It's in a hotel, and she's not 21, and she asked me "Is it ok if I flirt with people so they'll buy be drinks? As long as nothing happens?"

I'm not sure why she asked me; but the fact that she did is encouraging, I guess.

Anyway, what do the rest of you think?
You`re kidding right? Your girl`s going to a conference and wants to drink (being underage) by enticing guys to buy her drinks and then tries to qualify it by saying, "As long as nothing happens?" And then she`s asking for your permission to do it?! Mmmm, sounds like she wants to not take responsibility and get blamed for doing something that she would otherwise.

There`s nothing encouraging about it. Are you going to be there at this conference? No? It seems to me that she`s telegraphing that she wants something to happen. "Oh sorry honey, I guess I had one too many and I don`t know/remember what happened".

Do you really want to hear that from her?

Also, how honest and trustworthy could she be if she wants to scam drinks off of other guys. Come on young bro. Something`s off here.

Just my 2 cents.

Cheers,
Mav
 
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I also agree with the above posters. It could also be a test, to see what you will do. But, otherwise I'd say she's giving you a red flag.
 

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THREAD JACK!

What do you think about a girl proposing a game seeing who can get attract the most attention from the opposite sex? not a gf, but heading that way.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Fvck that. Who even asks such a question in a relationship.

I would say get rid of her.

Or, ask if its ok while she is out you and your buddies go to a club and bar and you do the same thing. If its ok she does it, then its ok you do it.
 

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You people are retarded. Last time I ever post here.
 

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So you came looking for a certain type of response and you didn't get it.

You won't be missed.

Peace out.
 

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Originally posted by Bourne
So you came looking for a certain type of response and you didn't get it.

You won't be missed.

Peace out.
ditto.

Mods, please close thread, no point posting anymore, this guy says he is out.
 

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I just thought it might be nice to hear from people who had ANY experience with women.

No such luck.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Originally posted by Leporello
I just thought it might be nice to hear from people who had ANY experience with women.

No such luck.
insults and crude observations make you immature.

as to your question, you are setting yourself up for problems with other guys getting her attention. This will test your trust, but it is the wrong type of test to do.
 

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Just it sounds like to most of us, she is looking for an excuse to cheat.
 
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