"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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"Is it OK if I flirt?"

Leporello

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I was talking to my gf tonight, and she ws telling me about an activism conference she'll be attending over winter break. It's in a hotel, and she's not 21, and she asked me "Is it ok if I flirt with people so they'll buy be drinks? As long as nothing happens?"

I'm not sure why she asked me; but the fact that she did is encouraging, I guess.

Anyway, what do the rest of you think?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by Leporello
I was talking to my gf tonight, and she ws telling me about an activism conference she'll be attending over winter break. It's in a hotel, and she's not 21, and she asked me "Is it ok if I flirt with people so they'll buy be drinks? As long as nothing happens?"

I'm not sure why she asked me; but the fact that she did is encouraging, I guess.

Anyway, what do the rest of you think?
You`re kidding right? Your girl`s going to a conference and wants to drink (being underage) by enticing guys to buy her drinks and then tries to qualify it by saying, "As long as nothing happens?" And then she`s asking for your permission to do it?! Mmmm, sounds like she wants to not take responsibility and get blamed for doing something that she would otherwise.

There`s nothing encouraging about it. Are you going to be there at this conference? No? It seems to me that she`s telegraphing that she wants something to happen. "Oh sorry honey, I guess I had one too many and I don`t know/remember what happened".

Do you really want to hear that from her?

Also, how honest and trustworthy could she be if she wants to scam drinks off of other guys. Come on young bro. Something`s off here.

Just my 2 cents.

Cheers,
Mav
 
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I also agree with the above posters. It could also be a test, to see what you will do. But, otherwise I'd say she's giving you a red flag.
 

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THREAD JACK!

What do you think about a girl proposing a game seeing who can get attract the most attention from the opposite sex? not a gf, but heading that way.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Fvck that. Who even asks such a question in a relationship.

I would say get rid of her.

Or, ask if its ok while she is out you and your buddies go to a club and bar and you do the same thing. If its ok she does it, then its ok you do it.
 

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You people are retarded. Last time I ever post here.
 

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So you came looking for a certain type of response and you didn't get it.

You won't be missed.

Peace out.
 

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Originally posted by Bourne
So you came looking for a certain type of response and you didn't get it.

You won't be missed.

Peace out.
ditto.

Mods, please close thread, no point posting anymore, this guy says he is out.
 

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I just thought it might be nice to hear from people who had ANY experience with women.

No such luck.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Originally posted by Leporello
I just thought it might be nice to hear from people who had ANY experience with women.

No such luck.
insults and crude observations make you immature.

as to your question, you are setting yourself up for problems with other guys getting her attention. This will test your trust, but it is the wrong type of test to do.
 

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Just it sounds like to most of us, she is looking for an excuse to cheat.
 
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