"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Is it just me or..

King Turi

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..are club/pub chicks the absolute low as far as decent girls go?

I've seen so many chicks go out to places I go to, and they hook up with random dudes, always try getting with a different guy each time it seems, and even the chicks who have boyfriends are hooking up with other guys on their "girls night out"... I have basically decided if my girl ever pulls the girls night out crap on me, she's gonna get kicked to the curb. (I'm single, just saying).

The chicks I thought were attractive when I first started going to these places are now people I wouldn't even consider and would probably be repulsed by if they tried busting a move on me, it's just wrong to know they've had so much ****.
Like there's absolutely no WAY they could not have a sexual disease.

I've been with a girl who I basically stole from her boyfriend (she broke up with him because of me), then she left me, to get back with him, and she comes out every now and then to places I go (there's not much variety where I live) and she hooks up with a new guy each time, even though she has a man.
It's disgusting, because when she's sober, she's a really nice person.

What has happened in recent years which has sparked such behaviour?

I realize the old days of getting married at 21 and being together until the day you die is over, but something has really screwed up as far as society goes, and I'm not entirely sure what it is.
I'm only 21, I'm not some old guy by the way, so maybe I'm just naive.

Where would one have to go in order to meet a decent girl, as in, someone who doesn't cheat on you the instant she goes out without you?

Because it looks like that's all chicks go out to do and it's kinda disturbing since I actually do want a decent girl.
It's like I might as well forget about even getting into a relationship because there's simply no point, they all end miserably and you WILL be cheated on.

Spinning plates is a decent method of coming back from the depths of a break-up, but it doesn't fix whatever has screwed over society.

Anybody know what happened?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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IamtheAlphamale

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Really you think the girls night out thing is just an excuse to get some ass? I've been thinking pretty similarly to this lately. Anyone else?
 

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I dont think the majority of women go out to clubs just to find men

they go out to get attention and have fun
 

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Usually its 1 or 2 chicks that want some ass that initiate the girls night out, and the rest go for fun.

Whether or not they get laid is a different story.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Nexxus

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lol I agree, the girls I've seen who go out to dance bars and clubs just seem real slutty and easy...
 

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No. It's a huge myth that the world is divided into party girls who go to clubs, and quality relationship material outside of them. The general "quality" of the entire female population has gone down recently, that kind of behaviour is seen as more normal, and their men are not assertive, so they tolerate bad behaviour.

I thought the same way as you in high school. My eyes were opened when I went to a party, and all the "nice" girls were drunk and making out with the jocks. Going out is an excuse for them to let their hair down.

The majority of young women do go to clubs these days. Some of them aren't acting like slvts. Some are. Then back in the daytime, the majority of these party girls act a lot more tame. Same women, acting different in different situations.

But you are half right, party girls like this aren't relationship material. Very few women these days are relationship material. But you can find them anywhere.
 
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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