So I have two neighbors, both heavy smokers, both thin physique and both super ripped and defined but neither of them works out...like at all! They have/had physical jobs but not like the construction workers. One of them does network/low voltage wiring and the other has been retired for 2-3 yrs (he's mid 40s, all three of us are the same age) works on his project cars and stuff. I know them fairly well. Whenever I see them they're always just hanging out drinking a beer and smoking. I haven't drank in years, I work out and I'm not even 25% of what their physique is like, pisses me off. Is it genetics or is it the smoking that burns all the fat off?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Is it just me or thin smokers are super ripped...as in 8% body fat
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Smoking kills your appetite. And having little fat will have your skin cling to your muscles - making it seem well-defined. Everyone will have a basic layer of muscles, even lethargic people. My friend, similar physique, has a visible 6 pack - but that’s because he’s super skinny. Doesn’t hit the gym.
I’m guessing they’re not looking bulked up. Some girls like super skinny, but from what I’ve seen they prefer a bit of bulk-muscle for the most part.
I’m guessing they’re not looking bulked up. Some girls like super skinny, but from what I’ve seen they prefer a bit of bulk-muscle for the most part.
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Well that guy seems like he hits the gym somewhat decently, if that’s their physique.
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You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
That's the thing, they don't work out. May be they did in their younger years. If I hang my arm straight down it's a fvkng flat arm, their's you can distinctly see the deltoids separate from the biceps, separate from the forearms and veins that are quarter inch thick. Ugh.
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Smoking causes an acute increase in testosterone levels. That’s why that ‘bad boy’ characer from old movies and tv shows is often depicted as a smoker. People with high testosterone tend to give less craps and be the more ‘bad boy’ type, and smoking causes an sharp increase in test. Of course, media directors don’t know this, they just notice the trend. It typically starts to decline over time as they continue to stay smokers, and like those with low T, it’s also why a lot of times when people quit smoking they get depressed.
Testosterone also helps build muscle and all that.
Testosterone also helps build muscle and all that.
mrgoodstuff
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Crack smokers?
wtf really? shall I smoke then?
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When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Chev.Chelios
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bpd ex made me so miserable smoked 2 packs a day for 2 weeks straight without eatting any food.
my bodys hot without ever hitting the gym lawl
my bodys hot without ever hitting the gym lawl
id take steroids tho but i dont like needles
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Well, that and because pretty much everybody smoked back in those days.
I've seen this effect the OP is talking about, in some people who are really focused on their addiction. I've seen it with cigarettes and hardcore alcoholics. They'll smoke and drink instead of eating, so they end up with very low body fat, which can be appealing on the right body type.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.