Dhoulmagus
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Most people can't
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
is it good when a girl can't tell if you are serious or joking
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Mike32ct
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Textbook David D stuff says yes, but I disagree. I say no. I think if people don't know you're joking, you are doing it wrong. I never understood the whole "messing with people and making them wonder if you are serious or joking."
Between_The_Lines
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In my experience, if the girl is attracted to you, treading down this path has the potential to shoot her attraction levels to an absolute zenith (funny enough, no matter how incomprehensible you actually may be to them, their attraction toward you will help them rationalize it in their brains that they "get you"), and if attraction levels are low it can easily get her to write you off as a jerk/@sshole. If this is the way you typically are, if you feel comfortable with the whole push-pull approach, then I say roll with it all the way until you come across a girl who "gets it".
sylvester the cat
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If a girl likes you she will find you funny.
Dhoulmagus
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It's the way I am, what doooBetween_The_Lines said:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.