"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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is it good when a girl can't tell if you are serious or joking

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Mike32ct

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Textbook David D stuff says yes, but I disagree. I say no. I think if people don't know you're joking, you are doing it wrong. I never understood the whole "messing with people and making them wonder if you are serious or joking."
 

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In my experience, if the girl is attracted to you, treading down this path has the potential to shoot her attraction levels to an absolute zenith (funny enough, no matter how incomprehensible you actually may be to them, their attraction toward you will help them rationalize it in their brains that they "get you"), and if attraction levels are low it can easily get her to write you off as a jerk/@sshole. If this is the way you typically are, if you feel comfortable with the whole push-pull approach, then I say roll with it all the way until you come across a girl who "gets it".
 

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If a girl likes you she will find you funny.
 

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Between_The_Lines said:
In my experience, if the girl is attracted to you, treading down this path has the potential to shoot her attraction levels to an absolute zenith (funny enough, no matter how incomprehensible you actually may be to them, their attraction toward you will help them rationalize it in their brains that they "get you"), and if attraction levels are low it can easily get her to write you off as a jerk/@sshole. If this is the way you typically are, if you feel comfortable with the whole push-pull approach, then I say roll with it all the way until you come across a girl who "gets it".
It's the way I am, what dooo
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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if she cant tell the difference ever... i guess she is quite thick !
 
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