Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Is it good to be a jerk to your wife sometimes?

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Bible Belt made a great point. At SoSuave we often neglect to recognize the importance of psychology, and how women (and men) tend to be products of their environment...usually the environment they grew up in.

Grew up in drama = will seek r/s that have drama
Grew up abandoned by daddy = will seek r/s with emotionally unavailable partners

etc etc etc.

This is all unconscious behavior, and it looks like that's what your chick is doing. When you're high, it frustrates her because you're disconnected on some level which probably mimics her father's behavior to a large extent. Just a hunch, I'm no professional :p
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Malice said:
I think she likes the drama and the emotion.
I think it's more her lack of options.

But hey, I'm not a psychologist. I just play one on TV. ;)
 

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I don't regard it as being ok, but it's almost bound to happen, as is her being a jerk at times, too. I try to be always the good mate for her, because I want the same in return.
 

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rearea said:
All men are mean degrading *******s that see women as vehicles of getting their own selfish desires. Men do not see females as human beings with thoughts, feelings and needs like their own. Females are just objects to be used for certain purposes and ignored for others.

You are mean to your wife because like every other male on this planet, you are selfish and have no compassion or empathy for anybody who is a female.
Cool story bro.
 

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goundra said:
I don't regard it as being ok, but it's almost bound to happen, as is her being a jerk at times, too. I try to be always the good mate for her, because I want the same in return.
yeah, this issue has resolved itself. Turns out I needed some good meds from the shrink. We are talking controlled substance (very low dose), and I no longer feel the need to smoke and drink.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Malice said:
yeah, this issue has resolved itself. Turns out I needed some good meds from the shrink. We are talking controlled substance (very low dose), and I no longer feel the need to smoke and drink.
This is one thing that has changed as I have gotten older. When I was a kid, street drugs were very common. But these days, prescription drugs have become insanely popular. I bet most of the people I know are on some kind of antidepressant, anti-anxiety drug, mood stabilizer, opiate, or amphetamine.
 
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