"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Is it good to be a jerk to your wife sometimes?

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Bible Belt made a great point. At SoSuave we often neglect to recognize the importance of psychology, and how women (and men) tend to be products of their environment...usually the environment they grew up in.

Grew up in drama = will seek r/s that have drama
Grew up abandoned by daddy = will seek r/s with emotionally unavailable partners

etc etc etc.

This is all unconscious behavior, and it looks like that's what your chick is doing. When you're high, it frustrates her because you're disconnected on some level which probably mimics her father's behavior to a large extent. Just a hunch, I'm no professional :p
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Malice said:
I think she likes the drama and the emotion.
I think it's more her lack of options.

But hey, I'm not a psychologist. I just play one on TV. ;)
 

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I don't regard it as being ok, but it's almost bound to happen, as is her being a jerk at times, too. I try to be always the good mate for her, because I want the same in return.
 

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rearea said:
All men are mean degrading *******s that see women as vehicles of getting their own selfish desires. Men do not see females as human beings with thoughts, feelings and needs like their own. Females are just objects to be used for certain purposes and ignored for others.

You are mean to your wife because like every other male on this planet, you are selfish and have no compassion or empathy for anybody who is a female.
Cool story bro.
 

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goundra said:
I don't regard it as being ok, but it's almost bound to happen, as is her being a jerk at times, too. I try to be always the good mate for her, because I want the same in return.
yeah, this issue has resolved itself. Turns out I needed some good meds from the shrink. We are talking controlled substance (very low dose), and I no longer feel the need to smoke and drink.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Malice said:
yeah, this issue has resolved itself. Turns out I needed some good meds from the shrink. We are talking controlled substance (very low dose), and I no longer feel the need to smoke and drink.
This is one thing that has changed as I have gotten older. When I was a kid, street drugs were very common. But these days, prescription drugs have become insanely popular. I bet most of the people I know are on some kind of antidepressant, anti-anxiety drug, mood stabilizer, opiate, or amphetamine.
 
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