"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Is it good to be a jerk to your wife sometimes?

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Bible Belt made a great point. At SoSuave we often neglect to recognize the importance of psychology, and how women (and men) tend to be products of their environment...usually the environment they grew up in.

Grew up in drama = will seek r/s that have drama
Grew up abandoned by daddy = will seek r/s with emotionally unavailable partners

etc etc etc.

This is all unconscious behavior, and it looks like that's what your chick is doing. When you're high, it frustrates her because you're disconnected on some level which probably mimics her father's behavior to a large extent. Just a hunch, I'm no professional :p
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Malice said:
I think she likes the drama and the emotion.
I think it's more her lack of options.

But hey, I'm not a psychologist. I just play one on TV. ;)
 

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I don't regard it as being ok, but it's almost bound to happen, as is her being a jerk at times, too. I try to be always the good mate for her, because I want the same in return.
 

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rearea said:
All men are mean degrading *******s that see women as vehicles of getting their own selfish desires. Men do not see females as human beings with thoughts, feelings and needs like their own. Females are just objects to be used for certain purposes and ignored for others.

You are mean to your wife because like every other male on this planet, you are selfish and have no compassion or empathy for anybody who is a female.
Cool story bro.
 

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goundra said:
I don't regard it as being ok, but it's almost bound to happen, as is her being a jerk at times, too. I try to be always the good mate for her, because I want the same in return.
yeah, this issue has resolved itself. Turns out I needed some good meds from the shrink. We are talking controlled substance (very low dose), and I no longer feel the need to smoke and drink.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Malice said:
yeah, this issue has resolved itself. Turns out I needed some good meds from the shrink. We are talking controlled substance (very low dose), and I no longer feel the need to smoke and drink.
This is one thing that has changed as I have gotten older. When I was a kid, street drugs were very common. But these days, prescription drugs have become insanely popular. I bet most of the people I know are on some kind of antidepressant, anti-anxiety drug, mood stabilizer, opiate, or amphetamine.
 
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