Is it "Chill" or something else??

[GeezerBub]

I'm not gonna lie...I straight up hate women. I hate they way they think. BUT, across my life I've met a few that I genuinely cared for. Mainly because my communication with them felt like I was talking to a PERSON and not a woman.

I didn't even feel hate from them either...Some of these few women I even straight up asked their thoughts on in. It was clear that they didn't feel a lack of respect for me, found me funny, interesting etc.. Now of course, I didn't stand a chance in dating them. But they made it clear time and time again that they felt no negative emotions against me. The only word I can use to describe it..."Chill" I can't help but ask, Am I coming to that conclusion because that word describes the ingredient I need?

 

[Urbanyst]

Mainly because my communication with them felt like I was talking to a PERSON and not a woman.

LOL.

 

[marmel75]

SMFH...all I can say is good luck...you'll need it

 

[ohrein]

Don't think "chill" actually exists in a sexual relationship. There's too much at stake biologically, subconsciously and socially. I think 7 months is my longest "chill" FWB. Any hint or expectation of an LTR automatically adds pressure.

That said, people are pretty varied so there's probably some combination of traits that would be good for you. Good luck finding them though. Good women are like habitable planets.

 

[GeezerBub]

Don't think "chill" actually exists in a sexual relationship. There's too much at stake biologically, subconsciously and socially. I think 7 months is my longest "chill" FWB. Any hint or expectation of an LTR automatically adds pressure.

That said, people are pretty varied so there's probably some combination of traits that would be good for you. Good luck finding them though. Good women are like habitable planets.

Interesting...Makes sense. Thank you.

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

I'm not gonna lie...I straight up hate women. I hate they way they think.

Women are not some collective hivemind of identical evil robots assembled at a factory by Skynet. I feel you on the BS that women often spew/act on when dating, but I don't feel it's fair to simply state that you hate all women based on this.

I can tell you that I greatly dislike immature, bitchy, shallow women. Women with huge egos and a lack of intellect don't appeal to me. I don't like women who play stupid mind games for no reason.

That's nowhere near all women, though. There are many women I like.

It's the same with women who announce that all men are total b*stards and should be castrated. They're making stupid generalisations for the sake of their own ego gratification.

Hating women in general will naturally f*ck up your relationships with them completely. Women are probably stalling at "chill" for you because they're getting vibes off you that means they don't want to show you any more attention.

Would you want to be with a woman that hated men? Would you want to work with animals if you hated animals? Would you work for Apple if you hated technology?

 

[GeezerBub]

Women are not some collective hivemind of identical evil robots assembled at a factory by Skynet. I feel you on the BS that women often spew/act on when dating, but I don't feel it's fair to simply state that you hate all women based on this.

I can tell you that I greatly dislike immature, bitchy, shallow women. Women with huge egos and a lack of intellect don't appeal to me. I don't like women who play stupid mind games for no reason.

That's nowhere near all women, though. There are many women I like.

It's the same with women who announce that all men are total b*stards and should be castrated. They're making stupid generalisations for the sake of their own ego gratification.

Hating women in general will naturally f*ck up your relationships with them completely. Women are probably stalling at "chill" for you because they're getting vibes off you that means they don't want to show you any more attention.

Would you want to be with a woman that hated men? Would you want to work with animals if you hated animals? Would you work for Apple if you hated technology?

Sorry...It's just my experiences with them is rather traumatic. I don't doubt that there are good women out there. I just don't run into them. Over the years I've come to feel an intense hate for them because of conformity more that a fault of theirs. If anything, this is one of the things I'm hoping to fix through out my journey of self-repair. I will reflect on this. Thank you.

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

Sorry...It's just my experiences with them is rather traumatic. I don't doubt that there are good women out there. I just don't run into them. Over the years I've come to feel an intense hate for them because of conformity more that a fault of theirs. If anything, this is one of the things I'm hoping to fix through out my journey of self-repair. I will reflect on this. Thank you.

It's okay dude I'm quite irritated with dating atm myself, and for sure there are bad behaviours from women out there that are very common.

I think it's just about keeping it in perspective and realising that it's not a problem unique to women, or all women. It's a human thing. Once you take the first steps down that dark road of blaming "all women" you become one of those men who ignores his own failings to bitterly blame everyone else all the time.

The fact you have the self awareness to reflect and realise this means you are already not going to become that guy and you will self improve constantly. I honestly think self-awareness is one of the most important things in life, it's what separates people from total failure/immoral decisions and real success/moral decisions Good luck bud.