DonGorgon
Master Don Juan
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i call when I want and i have enough other options that i dont give a damn what she thinks...LOL
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
is it bad to call the next day after getting a number?
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Chicks know about the three day rule now, so either wait a week or call the next day and say 'you know the man's supposed to wait three days before calling but I'm bored and your silly face just popped into my mind.' or somesuch.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Waiting a week, very bad idea. Calling her to tell her that her silly face popped into your head, good idea.Nighthawk said:Chicks know about the three day rule now, so either wait a week or call the next day and say 'you know the man's supposed to wait three days before calling but I'm bored and your silly face just popped into my mind.' or somesuch.
The main problem with the 3-days rule when applied by desperate AFCs is that they tend to build up so much expectation and pressure on themselves over the 3 days period, and when they make the call, it's friggin' D-Day and everything turns to sh!t.TheNastyAfrican said:If you wait three days but you're unconfident on the phone then you're worse off than the guy who called the next day but was extremely confident in what he was doing.
To the girls, when I get a number, I usually sms the exact same night saying "nice to meet you", et cetera.
Then some days later I would message something like "fancy a drink on Tuesday night?".
Sound right, or am I missing something?
Then some days later I would message something like "fancy a drink on Tuesday night?".
Sound right, or am I missing something?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
izza
Master Don Juan
The three day rule is a trick or a rule of thumb. A good trick may be useful for newbies, but this is not a good trick or a good rule of thumb. Just call the chick when you feel like it. In my experience, it's way easier to call a chick the same day or the next day than three days later. I have a lot going on in my life, I don't even remember a chick three days later. Honestly.
I recommend calling the same day.
Even better, when possible, don't number close but instead take the girl out somewhere immediately. This is effective and is less trouble than the phone number exchange, phone tag, conversation, schedule gridlocking, meeting, transportation, etc. etc.
I have never understood why this community has been so consistently against the insta-date. But that's another topic.
Izza
I recommend calling the same day.
Even better, when possible, don't number close but instead take the girl out somewhere immediately. This is effective and is less trouble than the phone number exchange, phone tag, conversation, schedule gridlocking, meeting, transportation, etc. etc.
I have never understood why this community has been so consistently against the insta-date. But that's another topic.
Izza
I don't know why I disagreed with you on this because you're really kind of saying the same thing. Being unavailable and unpredictable is something I totally agree with because what is being portrayed while doing it is that you aren't needy. You don't need a woman for affirmation and validation. Masculinity can't be received from a woman, and DJing is all about being a man.DonGorgon said:If a girl I was "realy interested in called my 6 times I wouls assume she really liked me adn wanted to tell me someting impiortant...LOL but that is cause I am a man and know how hard we have to work to find and get and keep a woman we really like.
Its amazing how quickly you women loose interest over the smallest thing it is frustrating.. its like cause you are constantly being offered attention you dont value it as much and that is one of the biggest problems with male female relationships in 08...