DonGorgon
Master Don Juan
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i call when I want and i have enough other options that i dont give a damn what she thinks...LOL
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
is it bad to call the next day after getting a number?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Chicks know about the three day rule now, so either wait a week or call the next day and say 'you know the man's supposed to wait three days before calling but I'm bored and your silly face just popped into my mind.' or somesuch.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Waiting a week, very bad idea. Calling her to tell her that her silly face popped into your head, good idea.Nighthawk said:Chicks know about the three day rule now, so either wait a week or call the next day and say 'you know the man's supposed to wait three days before calling but I'm bored and your silly face just popped into my mind.' or somesuch.
The main problem with the 3-days rule when applied by desperate AFCs is that they tend to build up so much expectation and pressure on themselves over the 3 days period, and when they make the call, it's friggin' D-Day and everything turns to sh!t.TheNastyAfrican said:If you wait three days but you're unconfident on the phone then you're worse off than the guy who called the next day but was extremely confident in what he was doing.
To the girls, when I get a number, I usually sms the exact same night saying "nice to meet you", et cetera.
Then some days later I would message something like "fancy a drink on Tuesday night?".
Sound right, or am I missing something?
Then some days later I would message something like "fancy a drink on Tuesday night?".
Sound right, or am I missing something?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
izza
Master Don Juan
The three day rule is a trick or a rule of thumb. A good trick may be useful for newbies, but this is not a good trick or a good rule of thumb. Just call the chick when you feel like it. In my experience, it's way easier to call a chick the same day or the next day than three days later. I have a lot going on in my life, I don't even remember a chick three days later. Honestly.
I recommend calling the same day.
Even better, when possible, don't number close but instead take the girl out somewhere immediately. This is effective and is less trouble than the phone number exchange, phone tag, conversation, schedule gridlocking, meeting, transportation, etc. etc.
I have never understood why this community has been so consistently against the insta-date. But that's another topic.
Izza
I recommend calling the same day.
Even better, when possible, don't number close but instead take the girl out somewhere immediately. This is effective and is less trouble than the phone number exchange, phone tag, conversation, schedule gridlocking, meeting, transportation, etc. etc.
I have never understood why this community has been so consistently against the insta-date. But that's another topic.
Izza
I don't know why I disagreed with you on this because you're really kind of saying the same thing. Being unavailable and unpredictable is something I totally agree with because what is being portrayed while doing it is that you aren't needy. You don't need a woman for affirmation and validation. Masculinity can't be received from a woman, and DJing is all about being a man.DonGorgon said:If a girl I was "realy interested in called my 6 times I wouls assume she really liked me adn wanted to tell me someting impiortant...LOL but that is cause I am a man and know how hard we have to work to find and get and keep a woman we really like.
Its amazing how quickly you women loose interest over the smallest thing it is frustrating.. its like cause you are constantly being offered attention you dont value it as much and that is one of the biggest problems with male female relationships in 08...