DonGorgon
Master Don Juan
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i call when I want and i have enough other options that i dont give a damn what she thinks...LOL
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
is it bad to call the next day after getting a number?
- Thread starter strey
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Chicks know about the three day rule now, so either wait a week or call the next day and say 'you know the man's supposed to wait three days before calling but I'm bored and your silly face just popped into my mind.' or somesuch.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Waiting a week, very bad idea. Calling her to tell her that her silly face popped into your head, good idea.Nighthawk said:Chicks know about the three day rule now, so either wait a week or call the next day and say 'you know the man's supposed to wait three days before calling but I'm bored and your silly face just popped into my mind.' or somesuch.
The main problem with the 3-days rule when applied by desperate AFCs is that they tend to build up so much expectation and pressure on themselves over the 3 days period, and when they make the call, it's friggin' D-Day and everything turns to sh!t.TheNastyAfrican said:If you wait three days but you're unconfident on the phone then you're worse off than the guy who called the next day but was extremely confident in what he was doing.
To the girls, when I get a number, I usually sms the exact same night saying "nice to meet you", et cetera.
Then some days later I would message something like "fancy a drink on Tuesday night?".
Sound right, or am I missing something?
Then some days later I would message something like "fancy a drink on Tuesday night?".
Sound right, or am I missing something?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
izza
Master Don Juan
The three day rule is a trick or a rule of thumb. A good trick may be useful for newbies, but this is not a good trick or a good rule of thumb. Just call the chick when you feel like it. In my experience, it's way easier to call a chick the same day or the next day than three days later. I have a lot going on in my life, I don't even remember a chick three days later. Honestly.
I recommend calling the same day.
Even better, when possible, don't number close but instead take the girl out somewhere immediately. This is effective and is less trouble than the phone number exchange, phone tag, conversation, schedule gridlocking, meeting, transportation, etc. etc.
I have never understood why this community has been so consistently against the insta-date. But that's another topic.
Izza
I recommend calling the same day.
Even better, when possible, don't number close but instead take the girl out somewhere immediately. This is effective and is less trouble than the phone number exchange, phone tag, conversation, schedule gridlocking, meeting, transportation, etc. etc.
I have never understood why this community has been so consistently against the insta-date. But that's another topic.
Izza
I don't know why I disagreed with you on this because you're really kind of saying the same thing. Being unavailable and unpredictable is something I totally agree with because what is being portrayed while doing it is that you aren't needy. You don't need a woman for affirmation and validation. Masculinity can't be received from a woman, and DJing is all about being a man.DonGorgon said:If a girl I was "realy interested in called my 6 times I wouls assume she really liked me adn wanted to tell me someting impiortant...LOL but that is cause I am a man and know how hard we have to work to find and get and keep a woman we really like.
Its amazing how quickly you women loose interest over the smallest thing it is frustrating.. its like cause you are constantly being offered attention you dont value it as much and that is one of the biggest problems with male female relationships in 08...