"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Is it absolutely over with this one?

Mr. IC

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I've made three dumb mistakes since our first date, which was two weeks ago.

First, I called her rather late to go to a concert event thing- she was already going with her girls. She said she'd find me there, she didn't though.

Drunk dialed her later that night and looked pretty dumb....

Lastly, I made a fool of myself the other night when I called to ask her out for this weekend. She had friends in town that she's going downtown with, apparently for both nights.

She did say, however, that "we could meet up" if we're both downtown. I stupidly said "okay, i'll call you tomorrow, alright?"


I guess what i'm wondering is, she wouldn't be saying things like this if she wasn't at least somewhat interested, right? Or maybe she's just testing how needy I really am for her own amusement.

So far I've asked her to hang out at terrible times, and perhaps if I try one more time and be a little smarter about it, it could work. But that would be going against the "2 strikes" rule that people advocate around here, right?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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sit back for a week. be less eager (needy). then if you really want to take another shot, go. if she says shes busy but will "meet up with you".. tell her to feel free to call you. put it in her court. dont stop sarging, she isnt moving mountains to date you as of now
 

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Cut off all communications for now and let the desperation in you for hooking up with her wear down.

That's your best move; turn elsewhere now.

Don't ever drunk dial women for future reference.
 

Mr. IC

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What exactly does sarging mean?

And is it worth mentioning that she stayed the night in my room after the first night? For better or for worse, that probably means something....
 
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