"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Is it absolutely over with this one?

Mr. IC

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I've made three dumb mistakes since our first date, which was two weeks ago.

First, I called her rather late to go to a concert event thing- she was already going with her girls. She said she'd find me there, she didn't though.

Drunk dialed her later that night and looked pretty dumb....

Lastly, I made a fool of myself the other night when I called to ask her out for this weekend. She had friends in town that she's going downtown with, apparently for both nights.

She did say, however, that "we could meet up" if we're both downtown. I stupidly said "okay, i'll call you tomorrow, alright?"


I guess what i'm wondering is, she wouldn't be saying things like this if she wasn't at least somewhat interested, right? Or maybe she's just testing how needy I really am for her own amusement.

So far I've asked her to hang out at terrible times, and perhaps if I try one more time and be a little smarter about it, it could work. But that would be going against the "2 strikes" rule that people advocate around here, right?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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sit back for a week. be less eager (needy). then if you really want to take another shot, go. if she says shes busy but will "meet up with you".. tell her to feel free to call you. put it in her court. dont stop sarging, she isnt moving mountains to date you as of now
 

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Cut off all communications for now and let the desperation in you for hooking up with her wear down.

That's your best move; turn elsewhere now.

Don't ever drunk dial women for future reference.
 

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What exactly does sarging mean?

And is it worth mentioning that she stayed the night in my room after the first night? For better or for worse, that probably means something....
 
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