"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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is it a hint?

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hello i posted back in december about this girl that lives on my street and we got into a big argument and we hated each other all year.

well we made up, i think. we apologized. i got a message from her one day asking if i wanted to hang out with her. so i call ed her that day and she was busy, so i told her id call tommorow. so i did and we made plans. but she call ed a little while after and said she had to do something with her dad, but i think she had otherplans.

so then i called her a couple days after and said i was doing something with some friends and told her id call her tommorow, cause agian she said she had no plans. so i messaged her on myspace asking her if it would be weird hanging out with these 2 other guys she barely knew, then she sent one back saying she had a doctors appointment at 2 and she was doing something else after that.

i feel like shes blowing me off, but i still want tohang out with her agian, but i dont know if i should call her.

anything helps. thank you.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Sounds like this girl is a flaker, she is blowing you off. You definitely shouldn't have called her so many times. Sounded desperate on your part. My advice is blow HER off...make no contact with her for the next...well, as long as it takes. If she asks you again about hanging out or why you haven't called her...just tell her that she blew you off. She has to make it up now. Make her call you.
 
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what if if i tell her that i havnt called cause she blew me off, and she says she didnt? she'll probably say that.
 
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ValleyDJing said:
Sounds like this girl is a flaker, she is blowing you off. You definitely shouldn't have called her so many times. Sounded desperate on your part. My advice is blow HER off...make no contact with her for the next...well, as long as it takes. If she asks you again about hanging out or why you haven't called her...just tell her that she blew you off. She has to make it up now. Make her call you.
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i agree and if she denies ditching you just act as if its not a big deal she ended up chasing you anyway.
 
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okay so i was driving up my street with a friend yesterday and she saw me and waved. so i called her and she didnt pick up her cell phone. but we went to asnother friends house and she called me back like a half hour later and we talked for like 2 minutes, but she told me to call her back later. does this mean i should just forget about it or what?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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dont ever say that you WILL call her...drop a maybe in there. firstly it doesnt lock u in and secondly you wont seem desperate.
 
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SHe sounds just like my ex. Making plans then cancelling them. Although try not to call a girl many times, cause like stated above. It shows desperation
 
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Next. tsk tsk tsk.
 
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