"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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hello i posted back in december about this girl that lives on my street and we got into a big argument and we hated each other all year.

well we made up, i think. we apologized. i got a message from her one day asking if i wanted to hang out with her. so i call ed her that day and she was busy, so i told her id call tommorow. so i did and we made plans. but she call ed a little while after and said she had to do something with her dad, but i think she had otherplans.

so then i called her a couple days after and said i was doing something with some friends and told her id call her tommorow, cause agian she said she had no plans. so i messaged her on myspace asking her if it would be weird hanging out with these 2 other guys she barely knew, then she sent one back saying she had a doctors appointment at 2 and she was doing something else after that.

i feel like shes blowing me off, but i still want tohang out with her agian, but i dont know if i should call her.

anything helps. thank you.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ValleyDJing

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Sounds like this girl is a flaker, she is blowing you off. You definitely shouldn't have called her so many times. Sounded desperate on your part. My advice is blow HER off...make no contact with her for the next...well, as long as it takes. If she asks you again about hanging out or why you haven't called her...just tell her that she blew you off. She has to make it up now. Make her call you.
 

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what if if i tell her that i havnt called cause she blew me off, and she says she didnt? she'll probably say that.
 

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ValleyDJing said:
Sounds like this girl is a flaker, she is blowing you off. You definitely shouldn't have called her so many times. Sounded desperate on your part. My advice is blow HER off...make no contact with her for the next...well, as long as it takes. If she asks you again about hanging out or why you haven't called her...just tell her that she blew you off. She has to make it up now. Make her call you.
i agree and if she denies ditching you just act as if its not a big deal she ended up chasing you anyway.
 

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okay so i was driving up my street with a friend yesterday and she saw me and waved. so i called her and she didnt pick up her cell phone. but we went to asnother friends house and she called me back like a half hour later and we talked for like 2 minutes, but she told me to call her back later. does this mean i should just forget about it or what?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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dont ever say that you WILL call her...drop a maybe in there. firstly it doesnt lock u in and secondly you wont seem desperate.
 

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SHe sounds just like my ex. Making plans then cancelling them. Although try not to call a girl many times, cause like stated above. It shows desperation
 

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Next. tsk tsk tsk.
 
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