"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Is is okay to say "do you stil love me" ?

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If you feel your relationship is deteriorating, but aren't sure yet whether it's time to breakup, is it okay to ask "do you still love me"
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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If you're at the point you are even thinking this on a deep level its time to breakup.

If you don't she will and she will walk away with all the power and an ego boost to boot.
 

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You should be able to tell by her behavior whether she still loves you or not.

I wouldn't take her word on it if your relationship is deteriorating.

If it is deteriorating because of her actions, why would you stick around and hope they change?

Heres a related article here
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Nope, you can't ever say that. (Not sarcastic either).


Auto-Bltch status imo.
 

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Just merged the two threads and cleaned up the replies. Enjoy!
 

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Fela Kuti said:
If you feel your relationship is deteriorating, but aren't sure yet whether it's time to breakup, is it okay to ask "do you still love me"
It's ok for her to ask, not for you.
 

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Nope, take charge, " I sense that your feelings have changed and I don't want to be somewhere where I am not getting 100%, I give 100% and I expect 100%
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Never ask a question like this. Judge them by their actions, not their words.
 

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It is ok to say it, but only if you follow it with "...now that I can dance!"
 

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BigAL said:
Nope, take charge, " I sense that your feelings have changed and I don't want to be somewhere where I am not getting 100%, I give 100% and I expect 100%
thanks! this cleared it up for me.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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If it is at that point where it is deteriorating, and you are sitting there stressing about wheter she still loves you or not, all that is going to do is bring yourself down and possibly start doubting yourself and your own self importance. Don't lose your confidence and move on to someone better, Remember it's her loss not yours. If she cannot show she is worthy of your time, than she probably isn't, Just my thoughts.
 

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DON COWBOY said:
If it is at that point where it is deteriorating, and you are sitting there stressing about wheter she still loves you or not, all that is going to do is bring yourself down and possibly start doubting yourself and your own self importance. Don't lose your confidence and move on to someone better, Remember it's her loss not yours. If she cannot show she is worthy of your time, than she probably isn't, Just my thoughts.

Bout time we got some cowboy's in here! I'm tired of being one of the only western outlaws out here!
 
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