"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Is is okay to say "do you stil love me" ?

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If you feel your relationship is deteriorating, but aren't sure yet whether it's time to breakup, is it okay to ask "do you still love me"
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If you're at the point you are even thinking this on a deep level its time to breakup.

If you don't she will and she will walk away with all the power and an ego boost to boot.
 
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You should be able to tell by her behavior whether she still loves you or not.

I wouldn't take her word on it if your relationship is deteriorating.

If it is deteriorating because of her actions, why would you stick around and hope they change?

Heres a related article here
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Nope, you can't ever say that. (Not sarcastic either).


Auto-Bltch status imo.
 
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Just merged the two threads and cleaned up the replies. Enjoy!
 
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Fela Kuti said:
If you feel your relationship is deteriorating, but aren't sure yet whether it's time to breakup, is it okay to ask "do you still love me"
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It's ok for her to ask, not for you.
 
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Nope, take charge, " I sense that your feelings have changed and I don't want to be somewhere where I am not getting 100%, I give 100% and I expect 100%
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Never ask a question like this. Judge them by their actions, not their words.
 
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It is ok to say it, but only if you follow it with "...now that I can dance!"
 
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Nope, take charge, " I sense that your feelings have changed and I don't want to be somewhere where I am not getting 100%, I give 100% and I expect 100%
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thanks! this cleared it up for me.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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If it is at that point where it is deteriorating, and you are sitting there stressing about wheter she still loves you or not, all that is going to do is bring yourself down and possibly start doubting yourself and your own self importance. Don't lose your confidence and move on to someone better, Remember it's her loss not yours. If she cannot show she is worthy of your time, than she probably isn't, Just my thoughts.
 
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DON COWBOY said:
If it is at that point where it is deteriorating, and you are sitting there stressing about wheter she still loves you or not, all that is going to do is bring yourself down and possibly start doubting yourself and your own self importance. Don't lose your confidence and move on to someone better, Remember it's her loss not yours. If she cannot show she is worthy of your time, than she probably isn't, Just my thoughts.
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Bout time we got some cowboy's in here! I'm tired of being one of the only western outlaws out here!
 
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