Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Is is okay to say "do you stil love me" ?

Fela Kuti

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If you feel your relationship is deteriorating, but aren't sure yet whether it's time to breakup, is it okay to ask "do you still love me"
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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If you're at the point you are even thinking this on a deep level its time to breakup.

If you don't she will and she will walk away with all the power and an ego boost to boot.
 

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You should be able to tell by her behavior whether she still loves you or not.

I wouldn't take her word on it if your relationship is deteriorating.

If it is deteriorating because of her actions, why would you stick around and hope they change?

Heres a related article here
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Nope, you can't ever say that. (Not sarcastic either).


Auto-Bltch status imo.
 

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Just merged the two threads and cleaned up the replies. Enjoy!
 

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Fela Kuti said:
If you feel your relationship is deteriorating, but aren't sure yet whether it's time to breakup, is it okay to ask "do you still love me"
It's ok for her to ask, not for you.
 

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Nope, take charge, " I sense that your feelings have changed and I don't want to be somewhere where I am not getting 100%, I give 100% and I expect 100%
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Never ask a question like this. Judge them by their actions, not their words.
 

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It is ok to say it, but only if you follow it with "...now that I can dance!"
 

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BigAL said:
Nope, take charge, " I sense that your feelings have changed and I don't want to be somewhere where I am not getting 100%, I give 100% and I expect 100%
thanks! this cleared it up for me.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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If it is at that point where it is deteriorating, and you are sitting there stressing about wheter she still loves you or not, all that is going to do is bring yourself down and possibly start doubting yourself and your own self importance. Don't lose your confidence and move on to someone better, Remember it's her loss not yours. If she cannot show she is worthy of your time, than she probably isn't, Just my thoughts.
 

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DON COWBOY said:
If it is at that point where it is deteriorating, and you are sitting there stressing about wheter she still loves you or not, all that is going to do is bring yourself down and possibly start doubting yourself and your own self importance. Don't lose your confidence and move on to someone better, Remember it's her loss not yours. If she cannot show she is worthy of your time, than she probably isn't, Just my thoughts.

Bout time we got some cowboy's in here! I'm tired of being one of the only western outlaws out here!
 
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