"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Is hypergamy and p0rn addiction due to the same general cause?

MatureDJ

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I was watching this video and it got me thinking:


The narrator of the video makes the point that the reason some men are addicted to p0rn is because our sex drive has evolved such that a man who has the opportunity to take a fertile wife (or mate with a fertile woman, etc.) acts on it, and has been set a certain level such that there would be enough sex being pursued to carry on the species. I would say that similarly, women's desire for a good mate - that would be presumed to have been guided by a woman's mother in the choice of what man would be arranged for her - has evolved to be barely picky enough so that in that earlier time, there would be enough acceptance of "good enough" (and here the determination made before she would be become an old maid at age 17, LOL) to carry on the species. During that time, I could see a young woman being picky (i.e.., fighting her parents' wishes for her arranged marriage) just barely long enough for her to become difficult to get marriage interest, at which time her maiden aunt would tell her to not wind up like herself.. Similar to the incredible availability of p0rn for the horndog male, there is such an availability of suitors (that seem to be interested in marriage) for a young woman, that her internal instinct is to be flighty until such time that there seems to be less interest (i.e., hitting the wall); and instead of a maiden aunt to life-coach her, there is the "sassy" culture that tells women that they can freeze their eggs and easily pick up a husband like he's a box of tampons at the market.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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All of our instincts were based on a hunter gatherer environment when scarcity was the rule of the day. Scarce food, scarce shelter, scarce puzzy, scarce alpha males.

Now our instincts are having the time of their lives. Fast food every twenty feet. Puzzy every twenty feet. Alpha males all over YT and FB. (allegedly). I suspect that guys addicted to porn is like super fat dudes. Percentages are about the same (obesity vs. porn addiction) can't control the impulse.

You'd have to make a time machine and go back in time to see how often cavemen jacked off to cave art drawn by other cave dudes.
 

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they both come from sexual desire , people want to fulfill their desire in any available way real or fake.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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