"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Is hypergamy and p0rn addiction due to the same general cause?

MatureDJ

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I was watching this video and it got me thinking:


The narrator of the video makes the point that the reason some men are addicted to p0rn is because our sex drive has evolved such that a man who has the opportunity to take a fertile wife (or mate with a fertile woman, etc.) acts on it, and has been set a certain level such that there would be enough sex being pursued to carry on the species. I would say that similarly, women's desire for a good mate - that would be presumed to have been guided by a woman's mother in the choice of what man would be arranged for her - has evolved to be barely picky enough so that in that earlier time, there would be enough acceptance of "good enough" (and here the determination made before she would be become an old maid at age 17, LOL) to carry on the species. During that time, I could see a young woman being picky (i.e.., fighting her parents' wishes for her arranged marriage) just barely long enough for her to become difficult to get marriage interest, at which time her maiden aunt would tell her to not wind up like herself.. Similar to the incredible availability of p0rn for the horndog male, there is such an availability of suitors (that seem to be interested in marriage) for a young woman, that her internal instinct is to be flighty until such time that there seems to be less interest (i.e., hitting the wall); and instead of a maiden aunt to life-coach her, there is the "sassy" culture that tells women that they can freeze their eggs and easily pick up a husband like he's a box of tampons at the market.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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All of our instincts were based on a hunter gatherer environment when scarcity was the rule of the day. Scarce food, scarce shelter, scarce puzzy, scarce alpha males.

Now our instincts are having the time of their lives. Fast food every twenty feet. Puzzy every twenty feet. Alpha males all over YT and FB. (allegedly). I suspect that guys addicted to porn is like super fat dudes. Percentages are about the same (obesity vs. porn addiction) can't control the impulse.

You'd have to make a time machine and go back in time to see how often cavemen jacked off to cave art drawn by other cave dudes.
 

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they both come from sexual desire , people want to fulfill their desire in any available way real or fake.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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