"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Is hypergamy and p0rn addiction due to the same general cause?

MatureDJ

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I was watching this video and it got me thinking:


The narrator of the video makes the point that the reason some men are addicted to p0rn is because our sex drive has evolved such that a man who has the opportunity to take a fertile wife (or mate with a fertile woman, etc.) acts on it, and has been set a certain level such that there would be enough sex being pursued to carry on the species. I would say that similarly, women's desire for a good mate - that would be presumed to have been guided by a woman's mother in the choice of what man would be arranged for her - has evolved to be barely picky enough so that in that earlier time, there would be enough acceptance of "good enough" (and here the determination made before she would be become an old maid at age 17, LOL) to carry on the species. During that time, I could see a young woman being picky (i.e.., fighting her parents' wishes for her arranged marriage) just barely long enough for her to become difficult to get marriage interest, at which time her maiden aunt would tell her to not wind up like herself.. Similar to the incredible availability of p0rn for the horndog male, there is such an availability of suitors (that seem to be interested in marriage) for a young woman, that her internal instinct is to be flighty until such time that there seems to be less interest (i.e., hitting the wall); and instead of a maiden aunt to life-coach her, there is the "sassy" culture that tells women that they can freeze their eggs and easily pick up a husband like he's a box of tampons at the market.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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taiyuu_otoko

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All of our instincts were based on a hunter gatherer environment when scarcity was the rule of the day. Scarce food, scarce shelter, scarce puzzy, scarce alpha males.

Now our instincts are having the time of their lives. Fast food every twenty feet. Puzzy every twenty feet. Alpha males all over YT and FB. (allegedly). I suspect that guys addicted to porn is like super fat dudes. Percentages are about the same (obesity vs. porn addiction) can't control the impulse.

You'd have to make a time machine and go back in time to see how often cavemen jacked off to cave art drawn by other cave dudes.
 

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they both come from sexual desire , people want to fulfill their desire in any available way real or fake.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

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