I recently started seeing this girl. Kissed 2nd date. She seemed interested. She texts me alot, flirts, etc. I try to maintain the ****y/funny thing and it seems to be working. However, last couple days seems she's flipped a switch. Short brief reponses via txt, lack of initiating convos, etc. I've tried my best to let her be. Earlier in the week we made plans to see a hockey game tomorrow night. Should have left it at that, buT I went and asked "if you dont already have plans tonight, I'd like to see ya" Total afc, and her response was "have plans". I responded, "awesome, have fun" Have not heard anythig since. To me this isn't looking good. If she gave a shi*, plans or not one would think she'd be a bit nicer about it. What you guys think?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Is her Interst level dropping??
- Thread starter shock
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Leave her alone. You're supplicating in your last message, but you did good by saying "have fun". She is expecting you to chase her now, but now that you're not, she'll probably contact you. When she does, don't drop everything for her. Just be nonchalant. You don't care.
ezily
Senior Don Juan
what you said there wasn't C&F. It really was big time AFC. I think you already know this. Also, you really shouldn't initiate texts IMO. If you have something to say then I would call her. That's where you went wrong. Too much texting and you were AFC some. I wouldn't contact her until she contacts you first. If she agreed to the hockey game she'll have to contact you to confirm it. If she doesn't try then NEXT her.shock said:
tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
Solid advicetick37 said:
NoMoreTapDancing
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It's done. Your girl is onto the next guy. I hate that short "Have plans" kinda response girls give. Just don't contact her any more. The text was also really 'AFC' as I think you guys call it. Don't ever tell a girl "Have fun" after she has disrespected you with such a short response like "Have Plans" this is rewarding bad behaviour and establishing her image of you in her mind as a doormat. When she contacts you, don't get back to her. It's finished. Over. Done. You're onto the next girl now like a real Don Juan. It's cold, but you are a Don Juan. He kept his feelings in check, and moved from woman to woman. Sound like this girl was the only one on your horizon, you became clingy, she sensed that and ran off.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Donnie Rome
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Don't chase 'em, replace 'em. Don't contact her anymore. If she's interested, she'll contact you. Women lose interest real quick once they realize a guy is on the chase. Charge this one to the game.