I recently started seeing this girl. Kissed 2nd date. She seemed interested. She texts me alot, flirts, etc. I try to maintain the ****y/funny thing and it seems to be working. However, last couple days seems she's flipped a switch. Short brief reponses via txt, lack of initiating convos, etc. I've tried my best to let her be. Earlier in the week we made plans to see a hockey game tomorrow night. Should have left it at that, buT I went and asked "if you dont already have plans tonight, I'd like to see ya" Total afc, and her response was "have plans". I responded, "awesome, have fun" Have not heard anythig since. To me this isn't looking good. If she gave a shi*, plans or not one would think she'd be a bit nicer about it. What you guys think?
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Is her Interst level dropping??
- Thread starter shock
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Leave her alone. You're supplicating in your last message, but you did good by saying "have fun". She is expecting you to chase her now, but now that you're not, she'll probably contact you. When she does, don't drop everything for her. Just be nonchalant. You don't care.
ezily
Senior Don Juan
what you said there wasn't C&F. It really was big time AFC. I think you already know this. Also, you really shouldn't initiate texts IMO. If you have something to say then I would call her. That's where you went wrong. Too much texting and you were AFC some. I wouldn't contact her until she contacts you first. If she agreed to the hockey game she'll have to contact you to confirm it. If she doesn't try then NEXT her.shock said:
tsmith2334
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Solid advicetick37 said:
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It's done. Your girl is onto the next guy. I hate that short "Have plans" kinda response girls give. Just don't contact her any more. The text was also really 'AFC' as I think you guys call it. Don't ever tell a girl "Have fun" after she has disrespected you with such a short response like "Have Plans" this is rewarding bad behaviour and establishing her image of you in her mind as a doormat. When she contacts you, don't get back to her. It's finished. Over. Done. You're onto the next girl now like a real Don Juan. It's cold, but you are a Don Juan. He kept his feelings in check, and moved from woman to woman. Sound like this girl was the only one on your horizon, you became clingy, she sensed that and ran off.
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Don't chase 'em, replace 'em. Don't contact her anymore. If she's interested, she'll contact you. Women lose interest real quick once they realize a guy is on the chase. Charge this one to the game.