I recently started seeing this girl. Kissed 2nd date. She seemed interested. She texts me alot, flirts, etc. I try to maintain the ****y/funny thing and it seems to be working. However, last couple days seems she's flipped a switch. Short brief reponses via txt, lack of initiating convos, etc. I've tried my best to let her be. Earlier in the week we made plans to see a hockey game tomorrow night. Should have left it at that, buT I went and asked "if you dont already have plans tonight, I'd like to see ya" Total afc, and her response was "have plans". I responded, "awesome, have fun" Have not heard anythig since. To me this isn't looking good. If she gave a shi*, plans or not one would think she'd be a bit nicer about it. What you guys think?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Is her Interst level dropping??
- Thread starter shock
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Leave her alone. You're supplicating in your last message, but you did good by saying "have fun". She is expecting you to chase her now, but now that you're not, she'll probably contact you. When she does, don't drop everything for her. Just be nonchalant. You don't care.
ezily
Senior Don Juan
what you said there wasn't C&F. It really was big time AFC. I think you already know this. Also, you really shouldn't initiate texts IMO. If you have something to say then I would call her. That's where you went wrong. Too much texting and you were AFC some. I wouldn't contact her until she contacts you first. If she agreed to the hockey game she'll have to contact you to confirm it. If she doesn't try then NEXT her.shock said:
tsmith2334
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Solid advicetick37 said:
NoMoreTapDancing
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It's done. Your girl is onto the next guy. I hate that short "Have plans" kinda response girls give. Just don't contact her any more. The text was also really 'AFC' as I think you guys call it. Don't ever tell a girl "Have fun" after she has disrespected you with such a short response like "Have Plans" this is rewarding bad behaviour and establishing her image of you in her mind as a doormat. When she contacts you, don't get back to her. It's finished. Over. Done. You're onto the next girl now like a real Don Juan. It's cold, but you are a Don Juan. He kept his feelings in check, and moved from woman to woman. Sound like this girl was the only one on your horizon, you became clingy, she sensed that and ran off.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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Don't chase 'em, replace 'em. Don't contact her anymore. If she's interested, she'll contact you. Women lose interest real quick once they realize a guy is on the chase. Charge this one to the game.