"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Is having brain fog part of getting older?

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I haven't been able to think straight for months now and I feel like i dont exist sometimes. I feel empty like none of this is real. It feels like i have no thoughts. Its starting to scare me. Any thoughts on what this is or is this just getting older? I am 40 years old.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I haven't been able to think straight for months now and I feel like i dont exist sometimes. I feel empty like none of this is real. It feels like i have no thoughts. Its starting to scare me. Any thoughts on what this is or is this just getting older? I am 40 years old.
Who knows? You can clear your thoughts and regain a razor sharp clarity.
 

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Who knows? You can clear your thoughts and regain a razor sharp clarity.
Fitness helps. Diet helps. Keeping alcohol and drugs down or eliminating helps. You going to have to be aware of and manage your time. Don't let women waste your time! The games they play, and being gaslit by their lies and biases WILL CLOUDY your thoughts.
 
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Fitness helps. Diet helps. Keeping alcohol and drugs down or eliminating helps. You going to have to be aware of and manage your time. Don't let women waste your time! The games they play, and being gaslit by their lies and biases WILL CLOUDY your thoughts.
Ive been doing all the things you recommended but my mind still isnt clear. Its worrying me cause ive doing doing all the right things and i still cant think straight.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Hi Maximus,
I found Coffee was the culprit,when after suffering brain fogginess I eliminated all the usual suspects one after the other for three or four days,then replaced them before doing the next one...the unnatural social restrictions of lock-downs don't help either.
 

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I haven't been able to think straight for months now and I feel like i dont exist sometimes. I feel empty like none of this is real. It feels like i have no thoughts. Its starting to scare me. Any thoughts on what this is or is this just getting older? I am 40 years old.
Scoop up Dr E Braverman "younger thinner you diet." Talks about adding herbs and spices in diet. Speed up metabolism. It spikes AcH, gaba, serotonin, dopamine, etc. I noticed brain fog when I was a student in my teens and later on in my life in biz. Furthermore, SLEEP. 8hrs minimum REGULARLY. jre podcast 1109. Matt walker. At 40 maximize sleep game. lift. meditate.
 

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Ive been doing all the things you recommended but my mind still isnt clear. Its worrying me cause ive doing doing all the right things and i still cant think straight.
Who you listen to? Listening to negativity or being oppressed aren't good for clear thinking.
 

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Get rid of overstimulation. Alternate between work and meditation. For Meditation I would use counting and eye fixing meditation. Combine meditation with flexibility and posture training (a bit like yoga)

Sprinkle between these routines some tier 2 routines like communication training, wokout etc.

I also have to balance my routines otherwise I produce more problems than solutions. You have to win the morning otherwise you have no chance.
 

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I haven't been able to think straight for months now and I feel like i dont exist sometimes. I feel empty like none of this is real. It feels like i have no thoughts. Its starting to scare me. Any thoughts on what this is or is this just getting older? I am 40 years old.
Dude, this may be the pandemic and lockdowns. Not sure where you're based, but here in the UK there have been tons of articles about people feeling like this during the past 12 months (first one is actually a US publication):

https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2021/03/what-pandemic-doing-our-brains/618221/


I was experiencing it myself for long periods last year. Apparently it's a normal response to a traumatic event.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Is having brain fog part of getting older?
At 40 years old?
Hell no.
You're not "old" yet. If you were 70-80+ then probably/maybe yes depending on your condition/genetics etc.

At 40+ you're in your prime and should be killing it; being sharp as a razor.

Are you hitting the gym?
If not, then you better get started and raise your energy levels and metabolism as other people are mentioning here in the thread.
 

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a few vitamin deficiencies can cause this. the more common one is iron. you can google and read all about it.

don't accept that it is normal, keep digging to figure out what/why so you can fix.

can be mental and or physical reasons. investigate both. again google will tell you all the well-known reasons. don't just ignore it, dig into it and figure it out. 40s is often the top of game age for many men.
 

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It doesn't hurt to get in touch with your doctor either. In this day in age, I'm sure you can send an email to him or her and they can offer some suggestions. Or they may defer it to the nurse practitioner or physician's assistant. Also consider that pharmacist can, in some capacity, diagnosis common aliments and can recommend some therapy. Good ones don't immediately prescribe a drug but often times can suggest something over-the-counter or even just a recommendation to make a lifestyle change.
 

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I haven't been able to think straight for months now and I feel like i dont exist sometimes. I feel empty like none of this is real. It feels like i have no thoughts. Its starting to scare me. Any thoughts on what this is or is this just getting older? I am 40 years old.
Did you test for covid?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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OP, do you have any digestive issues? I have to fiercely fight brain fog in the mornings as I have severe IBS. These two syndromes go hand-in-hand.
 

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If the corona has had you locked indoors or relatively immobile, you need to get out and move around. It's quite depressive to
be "locked in". Get sunlight on you if you are able.
 

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I has sinusitis that wasn't diagnosed for years. I felt drugged, foggy headed and tired. Finally a doctor figured it out. The four or five before her missed it and one diagnosed me with deep winter depression. F-ing quack.

She sent me to the drug store for over the counter decongestant spray (Afrin) and a nettie pot. A few days later I felt myself again and a nasal flush once or twice a week, keeps it in check.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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