Im thinking about having a child overseas with this girl. Guys like CGA recommend this as the best alternative for a man has who doest want to visit American family court. Does anyone have any experience with this? What are the pros and cons? Ive heard guys do this with girls from Dominican Republic etc...
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Is having a child over seas realistic?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
EyeBRollin
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Are you moving there to raise the child?
My opinion- children have to be raised. They need their fathers protection, discipline, wisdom, and guidance. Writing a check is not enough.
We all know statistically how children of single mothers turn out..
My opinion- children have to be raised. They need their fathers protection, discipline, wisdom, and guidance. Writing a check is not enough.
We all know statistically how children of single mothers turn out..
metalwater
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I have done what your asking. Many pro/con about this. If you have more specific questions just ask. The topic is HUGE. you can pm me or just post any.
On your OP, your concern is family court. That's a valid concern and in some locations, you will have far more control and no fear of family court. If you have a daughter, in some locations it is perfectly acceptable to enforce chaperones with teenagers and even 20 years old. If you want to really care and teach/assist the child you will have the right to do so.
I assume you want to go set up a family of your own and take care of it. Much better choice than doing the same in the US.
If you just want to have a child and be remote while the woman takes care of them it is a bad idea. Bad for you, her, and the child. But probably great for some other guy that will be living near her and taking what you give for the child. I actually see this setup ALL the time. It's called something different but essentially is what you're asking if being remote is the plan.
On your OP, your concern is family court. That's a valid concern and in some locations, you will have far more control and no fear of family court. If you have a daughter, in some locations it is perfectly acceptable to enforce chaperones with teenagers and even 20 years old. If you want to really care and teach/assist the child you will have the right to do so.
I assume you want to go set up a family of your own and take care of it. Much better choice than doing the same in the US.
If you just want to have a child and be remote while the woman takes care of them it is a bad idea. Bad for you, her, and the child. But probably great for some other guy that will be living near her and taking what you give for the child. I actually see this setup ALL the time. It's called something different but essentially is what you're asking if being remote is the plan.
Okay thank you so much. I will be private messaging you in the future about this topic. I already went overseas and found the girl. Her family is not opposed to the idea.
No...Turkey
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
EyeBRollin
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Anything you guys are willing to share? Some on the forum would find these ideas helpful.