Is getting poon really as easy as this woman says?

[BillyPilgrim]

so long as you're willing to lower your standards

And therein lies the catch

 

[GoodMan32]

You're mostly inaccurate in your assessment of tech.

Had you been born 15 years sooner, you would have had better social skills because you would have needed them to even survive. Those social skills would have given you a better chance to get laid in the conventional mating marketplace.

Millennials as a whole are more socially stunted by technology than their predecessor generations. Generation X spent more time in real life social situations as children. Generation X'ers learned to talk on the telephone with people and they did more human-to-human contact things when they were younger. Generation Z has even worse real life social skills than Gen Y/Millennials.

In the late 1990s/early 2000s, I was starting to see that technology was replacing human interactions among my early Millennial peers. I remember being in the dorm in my freshman year (2001-02) and watching people communicate more on AOL Instant Messenger than on the telephone.

By the standards of the early 2010s, all you did was dumpster dive on subpar websites.

By the early 2010s, men were having to send hundreds of messages on OkCupid, Match, and Plenty of Fish to get laid. People tend to forget now than the mainstream dating websites of 2004-2012 were not easy platforms for getting laid. They were saturated even by then. 2003-2005 is around the time that dating websites first got de-stigmatized and then dating websites started to get difficult before the dating apps launched.

The fact that you even were using tech methods while having a college campus as a resource was a very bad sign in your era of attending college. College campuses offer social opportunities that can't be replicated for working age individuals. Working age individuals were the ones who de-stigmatized dating websites in the earlier part of the 2000s decade because they lacked the social resources of a college campus.

I suppose we'll never know with 100% certainty what I would be like if I was born 15 years sooner. That being said, it's crucial to keep in mind I'm an autist.

A neurotypical man born in the early 90s will (on average) have worse social skills than a neurotypical man 15 years older than him.

In the autistic community, on the other hand, an autist is an autist, no matter what year they were born. I'm skeptical of the idea I'd have better social skills if I was a Gen Xer.

The fact plenty of my college classmates born in the late 80s and early 90s had no problem getting cooch through in-person methods in college would suggest the timing of my birth wasn't the problem; my autism was.

You're 100% correct; the fact I was using tech methods at all in college was a bad sign. Other than a girl I dated from class for about a week and a half (who turned out to be so unbearable to be with I had to break it off), every in-person attempt led to rejection when I was in college (In other words, it's not that I didn't try in person; it's that I barely got anywhere in person)

The fact I was one of the youngest in my grade, and I had a lot of contact with students 1-3 grades above me in college, probably didn't help. Even taking my autism out of the equation, a lot of the girls I was around probably viewed me as more of a younger brother than a potential partner (and would have even if I was neurotypical)

I don't dispute your assessment that I was dumpster diving on subpar websites. I just wish such websites existed in 2025.

 

[GoodMan32]

I was born 15 years earlier, probably older than you. @GoodMan32 is right. Tech makes life allot easier. You dont learn more social skills without it, you do more without.

Well-said. I was thinking of name-dropping you as an example of a guy born 15 years sooner than me who deals with similar issues I deal with (but I thought you might have felt insulted...even though my intention wasn't to insult you)

In any case, I'm glad you name-dropped yourself (so I don't have to)

 

[GoodMan32]

And therein lies the catch

I'm willing to dip as low as a 5/10 (using my ratings). I've dipped even lower before...but I'm no longer willing to dip as low as I did in my younger days.

I guarantee many a woman I'd rate a 5/10, some men would rate as below 5. In other words, I'd be willing to dip pretty low.

 

[SW15]

The fact I was one of the youngest in my grade

That's always a negative factor for male who want to date females in their own grade. This is tough because any male high school student (and even college student) will have the most direct contact with women in their own grade. Being the "younger male" is a bit uncomfortable.

It can make 9th grade difficult. Being the youngest in the grade level is less of a factor by 11th-12th grade when a male can date 1-2 grades down.

On a college campus, freshman year is more difficult with this.

A male needs to stand out on physique and height to offset this factor if he wants to open up more options in his own grade.

In college, freshman year can be tough with this going on. Freshmen women are desired by all males on campus. The typical sophomore-senior female isn't psyched to date a freshman male.

College campuses have a lot of resources like extracurricular clubs as a way to meet women. This topic has been discussed on the college sex thread many times.

Observations about college sex life from someone that went to a party school.

I thought I'd share this as someone who went to a party school and was in a fraternity there as well. Not wanting to give too much about myself but I went to UGA and graduated a few years ago. While Athens has its hot girls, I do feel like the quality got worse every year due to the admission...

www.sosuave.net

The fact plenty of my college classmates born in the late 80s and early 90s had no problem getting cooch through in-person methods in college would suggest the timing of my birth wasn't the problem; my autism was.

Autism is a big personality drawback. Someone with that drawback is going to need to fall back on looks/money/status to offset that. You didn't have the looks, money, or status to offset it.

Rates of male sexlessness for men in your age range were already increasing by the time you were on campus.

In the autistic community, on the other hand, an autist is an autist, no matter what year they were born. I'm skeptical of the idea I'd have better social skills if I was a Gen Xer.

I disagree. I think the combination of Millennial and autist makes things worse.

A neurotypical man born in the early 90s will (on average) have worse social skills than a neurotypical man 15 years older than him.

In the neurotypical community, there were signs of worsening social skills in the early 1980s group of births (the earliest Millennials). I've observed later Millennials (1990-1996 births) having even worse social skills than the 1982-1985 born Millennials. The 1982-1985 born Millennials have had worse social skills than 1972-1975 Generation X'ers.

Millennials were the first large generation to experience inceldom.

In Generation X, someone like Neil Strauss (born 1969) was such as unusual case as an incel/borderline incel into his early 30s before starting to study seduction with Mystery and other PUAs. Strauss' incel/borderline incel status was due to his height (5'6") and premature balding.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

It can be really easy.
I think my record of meeting to bed was 15 min. If a girl finds you hot & you’re in the right place at the right time: then yes. It really is easy.

 

[GoodMan32]

That's always a negative factor for male who want to date females in their own grade. This is tough because any male high school student (and even college student) will have the most direct contact with women in their own grade. Being the "younger male" is a bit uncomfortable.

It can make 9th grade difficult. Being the youngest in the grade level is less of a factor by 11th-12th grade when a male can date 1-2 grades down.

On a college campus, freshman year is more difficult with this.

A male needs to stand out on physique and height to offset this factor if he wants to open up more options in his own grade.

In college, freshman year can be tough with this going on. Freshmen women are desired by all males on campus. The typical sophomore-senior female isn't psyched to date a freshman male.

College campuses have a lot of resources like extracurricular clubs as a way to meet women. This topic has been discussed on the college sex thread many times.

Observations about college sex life from someone that went to a party school.

I thought I'd share this as someone who went to a party school and was in a fraternity there as well. Not wanting to give too much about myself but I went to UGA and graduated a few years ago. While Athens has its hot girls, I do feel like the quality got worse every year due to the admission...

www.sosuave.net

Autism is a big personality drawback. Someone with that drawback is going to need to fall back on looks/money/status to offset that. You didn't have the looks, money, or status to offset it.

Rates of male sexlessness for men in your age range were already increasing by the time you were on campus.



I disagree. I think the combination of Millennial and autist makes things worse.



In the neurotypical community, there were signs of worsening social skills in the early 1980s group of births (the earliest Millennials). I've observed later Millennials (1990-1996 births) having even worse social skills than the 1982-1985 born Millennials. The 1982-1985 born Millennials have had worse social skills than 1972-1975 Generation X'ers.

Millennials were the first large generation to experience inceldom.

In Generation X, someone like Neil Strauss (born 1969) was such as unusual case as an incel/borderline incel into his early 30s before starting to study seduction with Mystery and other PUAs. Strauss' incel/borderline incel status was due to his height (5'6") and premature balding.

You're damn right the summer birthday thing is a drawback for a guy when he's in school. Even if I was neurotypical, the summer birthday thing likely would have hindered my chances (at least with girls in my own grade).

I've mentioned on the forum before there was only one girl in all of high school where I heard through the grapevine she was into me. She was a grade below me (which makes your case of how dudes with summer birthdays often need to dip down to lower grades if they want to get a girl). I wasn't into her (so I never ended up dating her)

Then there was another girl a grade below me who likely would have accepted an askout from me (We had a flirtatious dynamic). She showed more signs than any of the girls I had previously asked out. Yet I still wouldn't have been able to bear a possible rejection (I had been burned too many times by that point). So I never asked her out.

Come college, I had a number of factors working against me. In addition to the summer baby thing and the autism thing, freshman girls are (as you pointed out) desired by all straight dudes in college (which puts a freshman dude at a disadvantage). It also didn't help that my clique my freshman year was male-heavy (and the only 2 girls in the clique had boyfriends)

As for my contact with other students outside my clique, the reason I had a disproportionate amount of contact with upperclassmen was twofold.

1. I had already declared my major when I entered college, in a program where a lot of students don't declare until sophomore year.

2. I joined an extracurricular club. The club had, as far as I remember, only one other freshman. The vast majority were upperclassmen. Come my 2nd year of college, no new freshmen joined the club. Come my 3rd year, no new freshmen joined the club (nor were there even any sophomores in the club by that point). The club no longer existed my 4th year of college (because we had lost pretty much all the members by then)

 

[GoodMan32]

It can be really easy.
I think my record of meeting to bed was 15 min. If a girl finds you hot & you’re in the right place at the right time: then yes. It really is easy.

For me, it sometimes (in my early 20s) was as easy as: Post an ad on Craigslist. Have a woman reply to my ad. Then she immediately drove over to nail me after exchanging only a few messages.

Being an autist, the sooner a woman is willing to hop into bed, the better my chances are (Because that way I can get her into bed before she picks up on any signs of my autism. The more time it takes to ger her into bed, the more likely it is my autism will come out...which means the bedroom thing ultimately won't happen in most cases)

I've been called impatient (which pi$$es me off). It's not that I'm impatient; I simply have noticed a pattern: If I don't get her into bed right away, I probably never will.

If my track record didn't show that a woman's odds of dropping her panties plummets the more time she has to get to know me, it wouldn't be so important to me to get sex so soon.

 

[corrector]

I totally agree with this, guys will argue but I would say it's even easier if you're not a Chad but have solid game and know what you're doing, obviously for Chad-Tier dudes the poon just falls in they lap ha ha

The process may feel more mentally rewarding if you are non-chad and are a thrill of the chase type of guy...but something falling into your lap is always easier, at least on paper.

 

[SW15]

Being an autist, the sooner a woman is willing to hop into bed, the better my chances are (Because that way I can get her into bed before she picks up on any signs of my autism. The more time it takes to ger her into bed, the more likely it is my autism will come out...which means the bedroom thing ultimately won't happen in most cases)

I've been called impatient (which pi$$es me off). It's not that I'm impatient; I simply have noticed a pattern: If I don't get her into bed right away, I probably never will.

If my track record didn't show that a woman's odds of dropping her panties plummets the more time she has to get to know me, it wouldn't be so important to me to get sex so soon.

Men who tend to get to sex fast are men with elite physiques who have charismatic personalities. They often mix in alcohol, late nights, and loud music (bar approachers getting same night sex). However, bar approaching isn't necessary anymore to get to sex fast.

Swipe apps and social media DMs have emerged as options for getting to get sex. With a swipe app or DM, a man will still need to arrange a social outing at some sort of bar (not a pickup type bar setting), have at least 1-2 drinks, and then make a move for sex.

With both same night sex off of a bar approach and tech arranged first dates, there's a certain level of social skill needed to make her feel attracted, execute kino escalation, and create a desire to make her want to come home with you (or go to her place) very quickly. That social skills is made up of charisma and persuasiveness.

Autistic men tend to lack the necessary charisma for same night sex/first date sex off of a tech arranged date. When autistic men try to mimic what might be interpreted as charisma, it often fails to land and is perceived as odd by the female (who is almost always neurotypical).

Autists likely need their physiques to carry them, even more so than neurotypical men. Your physique is nowhere near that level.

Same night sex from a bar approach or first date sex from a tech arranged date often doesn't lead to repeat sex. There are numerous reasons for this and they often happen for neurotypical men. If neurotypical men often struggle with retention after getting to sex fast, it seems like that issue would be compounded for an autist in the rare occasion that an autist would get fast sex.

Who has called you impatient? Is it mostly women? I can see why a woman would call you impatient for getting sex.

You're damn right the summer birthday thing is a drawback for a guy when he's in school. Even if I was neurotypical, the summer birthday thing likely would have hindered my chances (at least with girls in my own grade).

Late spring and summer birthdays are difficult issues for males in the K-12 years in terms of socialization. The worst period for that is junior high and high school, just as hormones are kicking in. You're correct that this is an issue for neurotypicals in many cases.

A lot of parents of boys now have more awareness of that issue. In the 1980s-early 2000s, the Boomer parents of Millennial children had less awareness of it and it set up many difficult social situations. It's getting more common to hold boys back a grade with late spring and summer birthdays in order to give them a social advantage in the school years. This trend didn't start until the 2000s decade.

Late spring and summer birthdays aren't meaningful for females.

I've mentioned on the forum before there was only one girl in all of high school where I heard through the grapevine she was into me. She was a grade below me (which makes your case of how dudes with summer birthdays often need to dip down to lower grades if they want to get a girl). I wasn't into her (so I never ended up dating her)

Boys on the younger side of their grade levels have no choice but to dip into lower grades in high school. That is first possible in 10th grade but becomes more realistic in 11th and 12th grades.

In high school, all students have the most exposure to their own grade level through classes. It takes a little more effort to dip into lower grades. It would happen through the combination of extracurricular activities and maybe random approaching in the lunchroom, hallways, or outside on campus.

Come college, I had a number of factors working against me. In addition to the summer baby thing and the autism thing, freshman girls are (as you pointed out) desired by all straight dudes in college (which puts a freshman dude at a disadvantage). It also didn't help that my clique my freshman year was male-heavy (and the only 2 girls in the clique had boyfriends)

Freshman year was a real kick in the testicles for me.

I had partially selected my college based on its social scene and reputation for attractive women. I had been intending to make my mark as a seducer there.

I quickly realized that it was going to be more difficult than I had anticipated that it would be. I didn't want to be left at a disadvantage so freshman year is when I turned to the internet and first discovered seduction content online from creators like Doc Love, David DeAngelo, and others. I immersed myself in both pickup materials and sex technique content so that I would be good at sex. My academic grades suffered somewhat due to my focus on pickup/sex content and going to parties to practice the art of attraction/seduction.

In college, the game became easier as I got to know more from online content and aged into the sophomore-senior grade levels.

My freshman year also happened in one of the more awkward years in USA history. Early in my freshman year, 9/11 happened. 9/11 dampened the mood somewhat. In general, USA residents felt less safe after 9/11. While there were still parties during my freshman year, there was still an uneasy feeling, even in a college bubble that wasn't near the World Trade Center in New York or the Pentagon in Washington DC. It took some time for people to feel safer again and I started to notice the mood brightening later in sophomore year. Things were definitely better in junior year (2003-04), which was 2+ years later.

 

[BaronOfHair]

That's always a negative factor for male who want to date females in their own grade. This is tough because any male high school student (and even college student) will have the most direct contact with women in their own grade. Being the "younger male" is a bit uncomfortable.

It can make 9th grade difficult. Being the youngest in the grade level is less of a factor by 11th-12th grade when a male can date 1-2 grades down.

On a college campus, freshman year is more difficult with this.

A male needs to stand out on physique and height to offset this factor if he wants to open up more options in his own grade.

In college, freshman year can be tough with this going on. Freshmen women are desired by all males on campus. The typical sophomore-senior female isn't psyched to date a freshman male.

College campuses have a lot of resources like extracurricular clubs as a way to meet women. This topic has been discussed on the college sex thread many times.

Observations about college sex life from someone that went to a party school.

I thought I'd share this as someone who went to a party school and was in a fraternity there as well. Not wanting to give too much about myself but I went to UGA and graduated a few years ago. While Athens has its hot girls, I do feel like the quality got worse every year due to the admission...

www.sosuave.net

Autism is a big personality drawback. Someone with that drawback is going to need to fall back on looks/money/status to offset that. You didn't have the looks, money, or status to offset it.

Rates of male sexlessness for men in your age range were already increasing by the time you were on campus.



I disagree. I think the combination of Millennial and autist makes things worse.



In the neurotypical community, there were signs of worsening social skills in the early 1980s group of births (the earliest Millennials). I've observed later Millennials (1990-1996 births) having even worse social skills than the 1982-1985 born Millennials. The 1982-1985 born Millennials have had worse social skills than 1972-1975 Generation X'ers.

Millennials were the first large generation to experience inceldom.

In Generation X, someone like Neil Strauss (born 1969) was such as unusual case as an incel/borderline incel into his early 30s before starting to study seduction with Mystery and other PUAs. Strauss' incel/borderline incel status was due to his height (5'6") and premature balding.

You're damn right the summer birthday thing is a drawback for a guy when he's in school. Even if I was neurotypical, the summer birthday thing likely would have hindered my chances (at least with girls in my own grade).

I've mentioned on the forum before there was only one girl in all of high school where I heard through the grapevine she was into me. She was a grade below me (which makes your case of how dudes with summer birthdays often need to dip down to lower grades if they want to get a girl). I wasn't into her (so I never ended up dating her)

Then there was another girl a grade below me who likely would have accepted an askout from me (We had a flirtatious dynamic). She showed more signs than any of the girls I had previously asked out. Yet I still wouldn't have been able to bear a possible rejection (I had been burned too many times by that point). So I never asked her out.

Come college, I had a number of factors working against me. In addition to the summer baby thing and the autism thing, freshman girls are (as you pointed out) desired by all straight dudes in college (which puts a freshman dude at a disadvantage). It also didn't help that my clique my freshman year was male-heavy (and the only 2 girls in the clique had boyfriends)

As for my contact with other students outside my clique, the reason I had a disproportionate amount of contact with upperclassmen was twofold.

1. I had already declared my major when I entered college, in a program where a lot of students don't declare until sophomore year.

2. I joined an extracurricular club. The club had, as far as I remember, only one other freshman. The vast majority were upperclassmen. Come my 2nd year of college, no new freshmen joined the club. Come my 3rd year, no new freshmen joined the club (nor were there even any sophomores in the club by that point). The club no longer existed my 4th year of college (because we had lost pretty much all the members by then)

For Cthulu's sake, when did MEN begin lamenting the fact that they aren't teenagers anymore? That's almost always been the forte of WOMEN

 

[SW15]

when did MEN begin lamenting the fact that they aren't teenagers anymore? That's almost always been the forte of WOMEN

I'm not lamenting. I'm giving a factual analysis of the mating scene I experienced in that phase of my life. That phase was a key phase in my development.

 

[GoodMan32]

Men who tend to get to sex fast are men with elite physiques who have charismatic personalities. They often mix in alcohol, late nights, and loud music (bar approachers getting same night sex). However, bar approaching isn't necessary anymore to get to sex fast.

Swipe apps and social media DMs have emerged as options for getting to get sex. With a swipe app or DM, a man will still need to arrange a social outing at some sort of bar (not a pickup type bar setting), have at least 1-2 drinks, and then make a move for sex.

With both same night sex off of a bar approach and tech arranged first dates, there's a certain level of social skill needed to make her feel attracted, execute kino escalation, and create a desire to make her want to come home with you (or go to her place) very quickly. That social skills is made up of charisma and persuasiveness.

Autistic men tend to lack the necessary charisma for same night sex/first date sex off of a tech arranged date. When autistic men try to mimic what might be interpreted as charisma, it often fails to land and is perceived as odd by the female (who is almost always neurotypical).

Autists likely need their physiques to carry them, even more so than neurotypical men. Your physique is nowhere near that level.

Same night sex from a bar approach or first date sex from a tech arranged date often doesn't lead to repeat sex. There are numerous reasons for this and they often happen for neurotypical men. If neurotypical men often struggle with retention after getting to sex fast, it seems like that issue would be compounded for an autist in the rare occasion that an autist would get fast sex.

Who has called you impatient? Is it mostly women? I can see why a woman would call you impatient for getting sex.



Late spring and summer birthdays are difficult issues for males in the K-12 years in terms of socialization. The worst period for that is junior high and high school, just as hormones are kicking in. You're correct that this is an issue for neurotypicals in many cases.

A lot of parents of boys now have more awareness of that issue. In the 1980s-early 2000s, the Boomer parents of Millennial children had less awareness of it and it set up many difficult social situations. It's getting more common to hold boys back a grade with late spring and summer birthdays in order to give them a social advantage in the school years. This trend didn't start until the 2000s decade.

Late spring and summer birthdays aren't meaningful for females.



Boys on the younger side of their grade levels have no choice but to dip into lower grades in high school. That is first possible in 10th grade but becomes more realistic in 11th and 12th grades.

In high school, all students have the most exposure to their own grade level through classes. It takes a little more effort to dip into lower grades. It would happen through the combination of extracurricular activities and maybe random approaching in the lunchroom, hallways, or outside on campus.



Freshman year was a real kick in the testicles for me.

I had partially selected my college based on its social scene and reputation for attractive women. I had been intending to make my mark as a seducer there.

I quickly realized that it was going to be more difficult than I had anticipated that it would be. I didn't want to be left at a disadvantage so freshman year is when I turned to the internet and first discovered seduction content online from creators like Doc Love, David DeAngelo, and others. I immersed myself in both pickup materials and sex technique content so that I would be good at sex. My academic grades suffered somewhat due to my focus on pickup/sex content and going to parties to practice the art of attraction/seduction.

In college, the game became easier as I got to know more from online content and aged into the sophomore-senior grade levels.

My freshman year also happened in one of the more awkward years in USA history. Early in my freshman year, 9/11 happened. 9/11 dampened the mood somewhat. In general, USA residents felt less safe after 9/11. While there were still parties during my freshman year, there was still an uneasy feeling, even in a college bubble that wasn't near the World Trade Center in New York or the Pentagon in Washington DC. It took some time for people to feel safer again and I started to notice the mood brightening later in sophomore year. Things were definitely better in junior year (2003-04), which was 2+ years later.

As far as the get-cooch-fast thing, this is (once again) where I'm going to point out the Craigslist loophole. That was an awesome loophole for a guy like me who'd have a hard time seducing my way to the bedroom after a social evening (and who's never been muscular). In a strange way though, I think being skinny might have helped me get Craigslist cooch, as the gals on Craigslist knew I'd have a hard time overpowering her (which would explain why they felt comfortable coming to my place after exchanging only a few messages)

Even if the quality of cooch on Craigslist was largely dumpster-tier, when that's pretty much your only option, you settle. Just like a poor man might want to dine at a fancy steakhouse, yet if all he can afford is Taco Bell, he'll settle for Taco Bell.

You're right when you say the faux charisma typically fails to land when an autist mimics a charismatic man. At the base level, there's a simple explanation: Because an autistic man faking a charismatic act is trying to be someone he's not. When you're trying to be someone you're not, it isn't going to go smoothly. Autistic men faking charisma is just one example of trying to be someone you're not. If a neurotypical, but middle income, man attempted to put on a wealthy facade while hunting for cooch, that strategy would likely fail too.

I totally see why drunken bar sex, as well as a tech-arranged 1st date romp, is unlikely to lead to repeat sex.

As for who's called me impatient? Mainly neurotypical men. A lot of neurotypical men who can afford to hold out until the 2nd or 3rd date don't seem to understand why getting sex so soon is so important to me (Their attitude is "Relax. It will happen eventually. You might just need to hold out until the 2nd or 3rd date"). The strategy of holding out until the 2nd or 3rd date has a glaring flaw (for me) though: There's a high chance I won't make it to the 2nd or 3rd date period.

The topic of needing to get sex soon is something I don't really discuss with a woman very often (for obvious reasons; a woman wouldn't take kindly to hearing that). On the rare occasion I've discussed it with a woman, they tend to call me a pig (as opposed to impatient)

You're damn right, middle school is when the summer birthday thing really becomes noticeable. When I started middle school, I had no armpit hair. Yet a lot of my classmates did (I know that because middle school was when we had to start changing in the locker room for gym). But I had hair in places I don't want it. Go figure.

Come high school, in addition to the fact summer babies are behind in terms of puberty, there's yet another factor that comes into play: Driving.

A same-grade classmate of mine who was born in September of 90 would have been able to get their license almost a year sooner than a same-grade classmate of mine who was born in August of 91.

A guy being able to drive is seen as sexy in high school (as not every high schooler is able to drive). Summer babies really get robbed of the sexiness factor (as it takes summer babies a lot longer to become eligible to drive)

I suppose my high school experience was somewhat unique in the sense that I (class of 09) had a lot of classes with students from the grade below me (class of 10). Long story short, my high school was set up so that gifted kids could take classes that were meant for the next grade up. As a result, there were gifted class of 2010 kids who were in some of my classes.

As for college, in a way, it's a blessing in disguise I didn't even think about trying to get laid until my 3rd year. Had I focused on getting laid from day one, my grades likely would have suffered too.

Don't get me wrong, my grades eventually took a hit. But I at least had already established a decent GPA from freshman and sophomore years (which padded the damage)

The biggest factor in which my grades took a hit was that I had to spend a massive amount of time on Craigslist if I wanted to get cooch (Because with how few and far between my opportunities were, I couldn't afford to not be online if a match came my way. A lot of my classes took place in computer labs. Sometimes I'd even be on Craigslist during class)

I hadn't even thought of how 9/11 might have impacted college campuses. By the time I began college 8 years later, 9/11 was a distant memory in the rear view mirror. Swine flu was the big thing that shook up college campuses my 1st semester (although that's obviously nowhere near the same level of severity as 9/11)

 

[GoodMan32]

For Cthulu's sake, when did MEN begin lamenting the fact that they aren't teenagers anymore? That's almost always been the forte of WOMEN

I'm not lamenting. I'm giving a factual analysis of the mating scene I experienced in that phase of my life. That phase was a key phase in my development.

Awesome response, @SW15.

Something as simple as a guy's birth month can drastically impact his high school career, which can then have ripple effects that stick with him for life (or at least for many years after high school)

Totally relevant to the topic of pursuing the opposite sex.

 

[SW15]

As for college, in a way, it's a blessing in disguise I didn't even think about trying to get laid until my 3rd year. Had I focused on getting laid from day one, my grades likely would have suffered too.

My grades suffered due to my partying, drinking alcohol, and seduction in freshman and sophomore years.

I rarely ever missed class and I did homework.

I got saddled with some lousy general education classes that dragged down my GPA. Those are often called "weed out classes". I survived the "weed out classes".

Getting poon has taken more effort over time than I anticipated that it would take. Getting poon isn't easy for most men. There are some men that can get poon more easily.

I hadn't even thought of how 9/11 might have impacted college campuses. By the time I began college 8 years later, 9/11 was a distant memory in the rear view mirror. Swine flu was the big thing that shook up college campuses my 1st semester (although that's obviously nowhere near the same level of severity as 9/11)

9/11 affected the college campus social environment to an extent. The universities that were likely most affected were the ones in Washington DC and New York City.

The college students who had the most social disruption were the ones on campus in the 2020-2021 year (the first full year after the pandemic hit). The 2019-2020 school year students got most of the year completed before the pandemic fully hit.

The pandemic made the mating environment bad for all regardless of phase of life. The working age people didn't enjoy indoor masking interfering with both daygame venues and bars.

9/11's social disruption was limited compared to the pandemic. I'm glad I wasn't on campus during the pandemic.

As for who's called me impatient? Mainly neurotypical men. A lot of neurotypical men who can afford to hold out until the 2nd or 3rd date don't seem to understand why getting sex so soon is so important to me (Their attitude is "Relax. It will happen eventually. You might just need to hold out until the 2nd or 3rd date"). The strategy of holding out until the 2nd or 3rd date has a glaring flaw (for me) though: There's a high chance I won't make it to the 2nd or 3rd date period.

The topic of needing to get sex soon is something I don't really discuss with a woman very often (for obvious reasons; a woman wouldn't take kindly to hearing that). On the rare occasion I've discussed it with a woman, they tend to call me a pig (as opposed to impatient)

There are plenty of neurotypical men who focus on first date sex all the time. Some don't even wait for a first date for sex. These are men who focus on same night sex from late nights at the bar.

This is a major game issue that needs to be addressed. You have game issues in looks, money, status, and personality. Fixing mindset (personality) is going to help. Getting to 13-15% body fat with visible ab muscles and well defined arms/shoulders is also important. For neurotypicals, the best advice is to focus on physique first.

If you were 6'0"+ with a shredded physique like the one I described above, some of your personality issues would be reduced. There are so many personality issues to address and they've been mentioned throughout time by numerous posters on this forum.

 

[BaronOfHair]

That phase was a key phase in my development.

You've ALLLOWED it to be. Same way the typical Feminists allows lousy/mildly unpleasant experiences with boys in JUNIOR HIGH to color her entire view of life forever after. Which is tragic, when ya think about it

 

[Solomon]

Getting poon has taken more effort over time than I anticipated that it would take. Getting poon isn't easy for most men. There are some men that can get poon more easily.

Getting poon should be easier as you get older as a seducer, I noticed you are always worried about other men, no disrespect bro but you can't save everyone. The only one you can help or control is yourself.

I will say this I chased more poon then anyone I know in my 20s did thousands of approaches, wrote field reports, even had a free e-book out. Literally gamed myself to death (I was working 2 jobs and worked up to 70 hours a week While approaching 10-100 girls a weekend, yes you read this right.)Then In my 30s I did far less, no more working two jobs I got less women but my poon rate went up. Now I'm 40, I got a plate taking me out for drinks tonight, another date on Wednesday a girl lined up on Friday. This is just this week alone, I'm booked for the next two weeks. I'm not saying this to brag but once you're game is solid you should be able to scale women like a business man scales numbers.

If the game as a seducer is getting harder for you, time to go back to the drawing board.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

ETOH is a great accelerator. But not necessary. My last first date lay was stone cold sober. As was my hiking girl.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Getting poon should be easier as you get older as a seducer, I noticed you are always worried about other men, no disrespect bro but you can't save everyone. The only one you can help or control is yourself.

Other men are irrelevant

 

[BaronOfHair]

Something as simple as a guy's birth month can drastically impact his high school career, which can then have ripple effects that stick with him for life (or at least for many years after high school)

And spending your every waking moment ruminating about sh-t that happened in f-cking HIGH SCHOOL, in your THIRD DECADE of life, can be more hazardous to your health than walking through ISIS country wearing a T-Shirt with the words "Sunnis Blow" emblazoned across the front. In bright red letters