"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Is free will an illusion?

Serg897

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I’ve been reading with interest some debates on the internet about this involving many competent scientists and philosophers. Here is an op-ed written by Jerry Coyne, a biologist at the university of Chicago who argues that there is no such thing:
http://chronicle.com/article/Jerry-A-Coyne/131165/

A response can be found here:
http://blog.talkingphilosophy.com/?p=4445

Many others have also weighed in – Sam Harris just recently gave a lecture at Caltech also arguing that its an illusion.
www.samharris.org/media/the-illusion-of-free-will-lecture-at-caltech

I think its interesting to examine this question in the context of women, relationships, and dating. How many veterans on this forum have had AFC reversions when a certain woman came along? How many times have you lost yourself in oneitis even though you had been on this forum and absorbed the information and knowledge for years? How many times have you done things against your better judgement, i.e. broken NC, called too often, or otherwise made idiotic mistakes with women who didn’t deserve it? I have done this many many times.

I am not trying to negate the concept of responsibility. Our past experiences determine the choices that we make in the here and now. All Im saying is that if you define free will as “I could have done differently” its essentially meaningless – since if you were to rewind everything back to the moment you made the choice, placing every variable where it was at the time there is no reason to believe you will do otherwise without changing the laws of physics, cause and effect. You are always stuck with the choice you made.

Anyway, Im curious to see if people on this board are interested in having this debate or not. Discuss.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Yes free will is an illusion. You were pre-programmed to make this post on this website and question free will. I was pre-programmed to make this post outlining this post and your post.
 

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Yes, but I was pre-programmed, to convince you not to be an AFC, and to argue so effectively, that you would have no choice other than to stop being one.
 
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