"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Is free will an illusion?

Serg897

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I’ve been reading with interest some debates on the internet about this involving many competent scientists and philosophers. Here is an op-ed written by Jerry Coyne, a biologist at the university of Chicago who argues that there is no such thing:
http://chronicle.com/article/Jerry-A-Coyne/131165/

A response can be found here:
http://blog.talkingphilosophy.com/?p=4445

Many others have also weighed in – Sam Harris just recently gave a lecture at Caltech also arguing that its an illusion.
www.samharris.org/media/the-illusion-of-free-will-lecture-at-caltech

I think its interesting to examine this question in the context of women, relationships, and dating. How many veterans on this forum have had AFC reversions when a certain woman came along? How many times have you lost yourself in oneitis even though you had been on this forum and absorbed the information and knowledge for years? How many times have you done things against your better judgement, i.e. broken NC, called too often, or otherwise made idiotic mistakes with women who didn’t deserve it? I have done this many many times.

I am not trying to negate the concept of responsibility. Our past experiences determine the choices that we make in the here and now. All Im saying is that if you define free will as “I could have done differently” its essentially meaningless – since if you were to rewind everything back to the moment you made the choice, placing every variable where it was at the time there is no reason to believe you will do otherwise without changing the laws of physics, cause and effect. You are always stuck with the choice you made.

Anyway, Im curious to see if people on this board are interested in having this debate or not. Discuss.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Yes free will is an illusion. You were pre-programmed to make this post on this website and question free will. I was pre-programmed to make this post outlining this post and your post.
 

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Yes, but I was pre-programmed, to convince you not to be an AFC, and to argue so effectively, that you would have no choice other than to stop being one.
 
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